Really Struggling Here. Men only please, I asked please.

Dan, Sorry your world is crapping on you these days. Divorce, Job change, and prepping for WLS? Hell, throw in a House Fire and you've got the the top stress causers known to man! It also Sounds like some serious Depression. Crap happens, (a lot of crap at once) -you begin to feel bad about it, then you begin feeling bad about feeling bad, And worse about feeling bad about feeling bad about feeling bad- and downward the spiral goes. You Need to get help from a doc on this one. People rarely just "snap out of" a depression, even when put on an anti-depression medication. But with help, most feel a little better day by day. It’s a problem that feeds itself. Like if you had a broken arm, that caused the other bones to begin breaking to compensate. Depression Suks! And, it is VERY COMMON among the Obese. One of the leading "Co-Morbidities." Depression can make you feel exhausted, worthless, helpless, and hopeless. Such negative thoughts and feelings make some people feel like giving up. It is important to realize that these negative feelings are part of the depression not an actual reflection of how your world is really going. Treatment needs to be on your Monday Morning Do-List. Negative thinking fades as treatment begins to take effect. But- In the meantime: Some of the typical suggestions to help cope are--- 1.) Break large tasks into small ones, set some priorities, "Make a Do-List," and do what you can as you can. 2.) Try to be with other people and to confide in someone; (like us here) it is usually better than being alone, even if you ‘force it’ like visiting acquaintances or going out to a place where there is interaction- 3.) Participation in any activities that may make you feel better. Mild Exercise, going to a movie, a ballgame, or participating in social, or other activities may help. 4.) Expect your mood to improve gradually, not immediately. Feeling better takes time. 5.) It is often advised to postpone important decisions until the depression has lifted. (like the case of spending more time with the ‘person from another board’) Before deciding to make a significant transition--change jobs, new relationship, --It is often recommended by Psyche-Docs that you discuss it with others who know you well and have a more objective view of your situation. From- "All about Depression"--- If you have any doubts or questions about seeking help for depression, it is better to be on the safe side and go ahead and speak with a professional. Left untreated, depression can become worse and may be more difficult to treat successfully. The following individuals or organizations can often provide treatment services and/or make referrals for service: *Family doctors and other physicians *Mental health professionals: psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, counselors *Community mental health centers *Hospital psychiatry departments and outpatient clinics *Hospital emergency rooms (in times of crisis) also- "freebie" or cut-rate help can be available at- University- or medical school-affiliated programs, State hospital outpatient clinics, Family service/social agencies, Employee assistance programs, Local medical and/or psychiatric societies. The Yellow Pages can provide additional phone numbers and addresses under "mental health," "health," "social services," "crisis intervention services," "hotlines," "hospitals," or "physicians." Get this taken care of! Look up a doc, or two or three and plan out the phone calls for the morning. In the meantime, distract! Hit a movie- (something fun, funny, things blowing up ‘real-good’) Not something that’ll drag you down more. Go hit a mall and walk some. Listen to music that makes you feel "Up." Tire your self out, then hit the bed early tonight, and set the alarm for first thing in the morning calls. Yes? It’s Father’s Day. Invest your time in YOU Today. Next month when you’re up-beat and hittin’ on all cylinders Then you can work on family and "new person" to hook up with. Hollar if you need us! Best Wishes- Dx