Memorials

Boxman, I'm preop and have went up and down the roller coaster of emotions.  I've decided to go ahead with the RNY surgery because it is gold standard of WLS Surgery, and I have made my peace with family and God.  AND, i am married so I am better prepared to meet death than most single people, hoop hoop La La.

You know how I rationalized it? If I died in the hospital, I would be dead, so I wouldn't have to worry about it anymore. Sounds flippant, but I knew my life insurance and death benefits would keep my kids off the welfare rolls, I just made my wife promise not to marry any of my buddies after I was dead.

I know I'm bringing up the rear on this post, a day late and dollar short,...but have pretty strong feelings on the subject. I was one that denied I was out-of-control with my weight until my heart started missing beats.  I was going to die without the surgery.  But you know, we all are.  You can't get out of this life alive. Another name for God is Heavenly Father, death is going home, a resurrected body, etc. etc. so why prolong the agony of mortality???  Fear of the unknown?  Love for family here? Mortality or surgery was only an option of the way I exit this life.  I was going anyway wit the heart problem and felt so bad f before surgery I wasn't sure I was coming home.  But after some serious pondering and prayer, I knew it was my choice to do the best I could to be there for my wife and kids, to provide for them and be there, maybe at graduations, weddings, grandkids, etc. etc.  When God is ready for me, he will take me and nothing here will prevent it from happening.  It is my job to do the best I can with the resource I have while I am here.  People die,....as DxE says, from waiting too long to do something to get better, then blame the WLS or program.  Sometimes, I am sure it is too blame but most of the time, I'd say we waited too long to act as I almost did. We have choices and if we make no choice, that is stil a choice and all choices have consequences/repercussions,...good or bad. We have to go with what we feel is right whether anyone else agrees or not and live with the results. I am exceedingly glad I made the WLS RNY choice.  I regret I got as big and as unabe to functiona as I did but am glad to live in a period of history where this technology has given me a 2nd chance at life and am enjoying being able to do so much after becoming so pathetic and incapable because of my girth. You have to continue to do your research and make this critial choice that will affect the rest of your life, whichever choice you make,  and be able to live with the consequences whatever they turn out to be.   Keep search and working.  The answer will come if it hasn't already.  If you have had weight problems all/most of your life and still do,  I vote WLS. If I died today, I know it extended my life and vastly improved my quality of life in all aspects. open RNY 9/26/06, (8 months post-op), down 166 and losing. Joe