Pick me up guys

Hey guys, I could really use a pick me up. Tuesday will be 2 weeks since the consult , the time frame the office girl gave for the ins approval, and I haven't heard a thing. Got some crap going on at work (the Post Office) with downsizing, being forced into another job, lousy days off or go on nights, etc. And of course, good ole family problems. I've been making sure I take my Effexor daily, just can't seem to get out of this slump I'm in right now. This lousy weather we're having lately (snow Easter weekend) isn't helping. Trying to stay positive and think of what it's going to be like after surgery, just tough sometimes.

Hey Don, the trials are just building character to handle the blessing my friend.  Been going through it myself lately with work stuff, IRS stuff, growing pains.  Just preparing you for the blessing.  This just tells me there are big success plans ahead for you.   Someone once said, "For every 100 men, 99 learn to handle failure but only 1 has the character to handle success without it destroying him."  That always helps me when I am down, knowing that God is building character for a bigger blessing.  On this Easter Sunday, it seems like the perfect time for a new view and attitude of the tough times.   I heard someone say another time....what was the difference between Judas and Peter?  About 2 days.  Judas gave up.  Peter went on to change the world. Hang in there. Greg

Wow,...Greg gave you some really good material there.  Way to go He Paid4That. I ditto,...tis always darkest before the dawn. What you've got going is a lot of stuff that wouldn't be soo awful if it weren't happening all at the same time.  Don't thrown in the towel.  Worrying about stuff you can't control is depressing.  Do what you can and know that God will take you through if you trust in im.  He know where you are and how much you can take.  We often don't know how much we can take and try to control too much.  Growing, learning, developing,...faith preceeds the miracle, the blessings come after the trial of our faith.  Hang in there. Really good things are on the horizon. My wife wasn't crazy about me having WLS but now she is extremely glad I did,...as am I. Work got crazy before I went out for surgery but it all cleared up and I was in a better spot when I returned because of all the stuff I did on short notice before. Talk it over with God and stay close to the Men's forum, man of us have been there. Tell us what's on your mind even if its just to vent the feelings you're not comfortable telling someone there.  Then enjoy any and all of the serious and jesting councel you're gonna get in return. Go ahead,...give us your best shot!

i know for me it is very hard to deal with things after surgery  because before i would eat and then feel better and now i cant eat. i know when things get bad for me i compare it to feeling like i am going over a hill to slay a dragon and as i get closer to the hill i keep looking back to see were jesus is and then at the last minute he saves me from certain death. thats what works for me. i always know hes going to come through..

Don, You’re in the middle of a "Funk-Convergence" there. The freak weather, The Pre-Approval Angst, (which always suks) Family Problems, (Equal Grief) And did you say Post-Office? (That whole track record of screwed-over employees going ‘postal.’) You need a break!!! Get in what "mini-breaks" you can. Get to bed a little earlier, and maybe take a melatonin to get to sleep sooner, If you’re watching any TV, make it Comedy or Nothing, Get a little extra exercise anyway you can, And get what sunlight you can, even if it means sitting by a window. All of those are "Pick-me-ups" for the Blues. One thing I’ve found helpful--- Keep your focus- Long Range! With your eyes on the horizon way down the road, the pot-holes right under you, don’t seem as big a problem. Yes? Plus, with all thi****ting now? Next week has to be better on at least two counts? Probably more. Just the odds. Hang in there! Best Wishes- Dx

I know this is frustrating, but I contrast it with how things were back in 2000 when I had my first RNY.  At that time, you would go in for an initial contact with the surgeon's office and then wait 4-6 months for your consult.  After the consult, you normally had to wait 6 -12 months for surgery unless there was a cancellation.  I lucked out that way and had a consult in July and surgery in Nov.  Many others were not so lucky.   Things had changed a lot by the time I had the revision (a second RNY) in Jan, 2005.  The only problem I had then was getting a new surgeon to do the surgery since my old one was no longer covered by my HMO.  Most surgeons don't mind doing revisions of their own surgeries but they refuse to do revisions of other doctors' work.  So, cheer up.  Life really ain't that bad.