Psych Eval is turning into my worst nightmare!

Definitely sjbob.  I will be shopping also! Thanks for the encouragement, Bob.

I think you are right in a lot of ways Paul.  I have had my eyes opened by the way he can guess what goes on in my nuclear family.  Thanks for the encouragement and the insight. Preacher Bob.

Hey Padre..... The trigger eating is important to understand...on the loard we see people all the time that loose their mind 3 weeks after surgery because the novelty has worn off.....they are dealing with real life again..... with that being said.....Do you think he is picking up on some of your control issues.....they are coming across loud and strong on the board......you wanna control the process of when where and how......that way no suprises, and you are happy..... and one think I know, is that after WLS, we are never in complete control again... As far as starting over with a new doc...starting over is starting over...this is a committment issue, which is big with this surgery too.... Ok can you tell that I have spent major portions of my life in a small thearapist room... If you need to talk, I'm here... Let go and let God.... Russ

Russ,  Let go and let God, geez I forget to do that sometimes.  I want to hang on and and direct!  LOL I'm a controller that's for sure!  Hee hee Thanks for the response and encouragement,  Preacher Bob.

bmcmo, What everyone has said is true, tuff maybe, but true.  But I understand your plight.  I had similar issues at my psych eval.  I felt like I was just being setup for more counseling sessions I wasn't interested in but being pushed into if I wanted to get approved for WLS.  They had me right where they wanted me kinda feeling.  That angered me too. I talked with some people and considered changing but realized this is  aprominent person that does this for a living, insurance and surgeon approved, and it probably wasn't going to be much different or better elsewhhere which meant I was the problem. So to speed the process along, it was better to be a good pateint and answer the question (cautiously, carefully, and correctly).  Keep the head-bob going and be obediant.  It worked and I was on my way. My next visit with the surgeon I asked about how much of this was required to have the surgery and what did the insurance require and did what was required to meet that.  The counselor wanted weekly visits after surgery to help me cope.  Never happened. I'm doing fine.  Sure there have been some bumps but I thing I know where you are coming from and you probably wil be fine also.  They are still there if you change your mind or feel differently later. There are some very real mental struggles and depression after surgery.  We've lost a close friend in food.  Food has to be perceived as fuel rather than companionship, reward, or punishment and that is definitely a psych job to overcome.  Then there is the mental craving rather than physical hunger. It has to be overcome without being able to eat.  But you can do that.  It is alot like obediance form sin and you understand all of that. You are going to do fine,  just don't be bull-headed and be your own worst enemy, Iike I do to myself too. Joe

Thanks Joe,  I'm very bull headed on certain things.  I get this goal in my mind and no matter what happens I'm going to attain this goal.  Anyone who tries to detour me will probably get run over. I actually think that follow up visits post op would be great, but then again, I've hid 47 years of stuff in my life and really don't want to open those rusty doors. Actually, the mental craving is not what I look forward to at all, that has got to be the worst the first 2 years post op, I figure sex would cover that pretty good and make me forget the mental craving for a time, I've already warned my wife. I believe the experience and encouragement of the forum is probably more helpful than a stranger with a D. in Psychology hanging on the wall is.  It's helpful to know there are men who are not so much unlike me in my life struggles with weight who have had this surgery and come out winners. So....thanks for the encouragement and support. Preacher Bob.

"This week he focused on....." This week??!!  Is this guy fixin' to milk this eval all the way into retirement?   My WLS office sent me to a shrink (who was very familiar with the process) - the whole deal took about an hour to get the green light.... just make sure you tell them what they want to hear. Call your Doc and have them refer you to someone that they use.  There is no need for you to spend your time (and money) to educate this guy.  The WLS office will refer you to someone that is familiar with the process - and values the WLS referrals as well   If you want to continue seeing your guy for other issues, that's fine - but I would recommend that you do what you need to do now to get the approval.

Ummm....I've never been to Laguna Hills but going out there to get a quick eval my well be worth my time and money!  Bring my 450 Polaris and hit the dunes with ya! Thanks for the response - I think you on it brother!