Bmcmo Could use some help

Bmcmo needs some help.  I'm not meaning to be all RAH RAH here but I think we could make a difference as a group.

I think besides our usual Mens Board posting and personal support, we could help him out by senting/snail mailing a letter of support about the successes and benefits of WLS to his Pastors Relations Committee. 

 

He posted they had a meeting and expressed the following feelings; that isn’t the support he needs to be successful as their pastor and more importantly to have their support during his recovery period after WLS:

 

“…they didn't give me their support, they began to point out what a miserable surgery this was, that I was risking my life, that I was depressed (wasn't until after the meeting) that this surgery didn't work - that   people would gain back the weight they lost until they burst their tummies.  Well I stopped them in mid stride and told them the surgery was a tool in the hands of craftsman, it is only as useful as you permit it to be.  They tried to interrupt me...'Well according to Oprah....'  I told them it was riskier for me to walk across the parking lot at 400 pounds than it is to lay on that table and on top of it all, why shouldn't I choose to try and save me life.”

 

I doubt these folks would take the time to come online to OH.com and be enlightened,….so we need to get something to them they can see.  I think letters might work.  The read a couple of these, pick any of them…kinda thing.

 

If you’d like to join me in this effort for bmcmo and his choice to improve his life, lifestyle and health, longevity with his family, and probably his career/job, he gave his contact info as follows:  

 

His email is:

 

 [email protected].

 

 

His address is: Reverend Robert McQueen 314

N. Maple Ave Mountain Grove, MO 65711

 

 

I think letters would have the most impact.  Thanks for the time and attention.

 

Good Luck bmcmo.  And good choice on the WLS and a second chance at living life again. Joe

thanks for taking the lead on this Joe. very thoughtful. count me in. all for one a and one for all! Carbonblob

Ok, it will be in tomorrows mail. I kept it short and sweet. no need to drone on if wants to read them to the group. I made the letter out to him so he can share it with the group if he wants to. thought that format might work better. thanks again for getting this going.......Carbonblob

**** for the first time in history my computer crashed! with the letter in it and no back up! the printer was printing and it just took a dump. i'll have to re write it later. damnit to hell

ok, done. man, that's never happened before. i'll have to look into that. my mac has never crashed. i think the printer had something to do with it. anyway, i sure hope his support group takes these letters to hear. i get really angry when i think about it. i mean, the support group is for him and this is the thanks he gets? he's a better man than me that's for sure. i couldn't be so forgiving. but i had to learn the hard way not to share things with the people close to me except for my g/f. you just never know the reasons they want to sabatoge you. in his case i think they just don't want him to miss work! how lame. they have the mindset that a little exercise is going to cure him. ah, already debated this, don't get me started....Carbonblob

Thanks for the help CB.  I appreciate the support.  Sorry about your Mac. I felt like you're feeling about his lack of support by thosethat are there for that very reason. I wrote a bit about how I'd been heavy all of my life and how my health went out the window in 3 months and how it has turned around since surgery.  I also cut and past the Risks & Rewards from the RNY info boards on OH.com to try and sell why Bmcmo is doing this and to educate them abit.  Then I asked them to use some faith rather than fear to get through this and with their support, they would have a healthier, happier, and more active Rev than then currently do. Hope I didn't overdo but I tried.  Sent mine off this evening. I hope others will jump in and give him some support too.  I think the guys on this board have a letter in them.  Thanks again for the help with this. Joe

Well, letters or not we all support Bob. i think the letters might help to educate them as they come from the source so to speak. not many things **** me off enough to shoot letters out but this one did. i mean the real deal is he's a grown man who's made a decision with his family and all the rest the group needds to do is support that decision. Crap, it's a group specifcally designed to support him! it's not our place to tell horror stories or talk him out of it or concern him with replacement costs! come on already. i just wrote about support. a simple act of kindness i'm sure they have in them. they can discuss it all they want and that's good to learn facts and learn about wls but don't fault the reverend for trying to make a better life. don't get me going again. later......Carbonblob