Lack of Support is depressing

This reminds me of when i got saved.  I had some friends that started acting different around me. they weren't very suportive about this great thing that  happened in my life. So i would pray for them because they just don't understand. its one of those things the if it has not happened to you there is no way you can get it. rny is like that. unless you have been over 400 pounds and tried to live in this world were there is prejudice against overweight people and it is hard just to do normal things that other people take for granted there is no way you can understand the happiness that comes with this surgery. its like getting bailed out of jail. just because someone helped you get out of jail dosent mean you can go rob a bank and not go back. its a tool.  every time i hear someone say i took the easy way out i want to punch them in the mouth. this is not the easy way out for most of us it was the only way out. would these same people look at someone who is having a hip replacement to make there life better the same way just because surgery is dangerous. i hate to tell ya but when you weigh over 400 lbs like i did just going to sleep is dangerous.  keep your chin up and remember there are people who will be praying for you and who do understand what you are going through. you will feel so great when you are down to 250 and happy. happiness is the best revenge.

Thanks for your words of support Rhett, they are like pearls of great price to me.  And you are right man, people are already telling me that surgery (if I survive of course) would be the easy way out.  The two statements just don't go together!  Anyway, thanks.

May the Lord bless you and open doors of opportunity for you, Bob.

Dear Bob, I am sorry to hear about the lack of support that you received from your "support group."  It sounds like they really value you a lot, but they are misinformed about the risks of the surgery.  I wonder if it would be worth making an attempt to educate them about it? You did mention that there were people that were actually very supportive.  You could also opt to spend more time with them and less time with the negative ones.  Or refuse to discuss it with the negative people. I told my coworkers about my plans for surgery the week before I was going in.  Outside of my wife and my son, I have not told anyone else in my family.  There are quite a few negative ones that would probably have a similar reaction to your group. In the end, you are the one making a consious choice to lead a heathier life.  You are an intelligent man.  You have done your research.  And you have reached a conclusion.  Now all you need to do is implement your plan. Although it is really helpful to have those around you to be supportive, it is not always in the cards.  The important thing is to have the support of the Lord.  It sound to me like you have a lot of spiritual discipline.  So, once your goal is set, the only thing between you are your goal is time and space.  Mentally it appears that you are already there.  And that is whether the others support you or not. You will be in my prayers Bob.