Anyone ever feel like....
My Harvard trained shrink at Duke has talked about this condition at some of our support group meeting. She says it takes your mind time to catch up with your body. It’s different for each person but the brain has an image of what you look like and it does not change overnight, she says it kinds of eases into the new you.
I am about 10 months out now from WLS and I have lost 216lbs. I went from 58 pants and 3-4XL shirts to 38 pants and L-XL shirts and my new size did not really sink into my brain till a few months ago when I got out my old Navy uniform from 1987 and put it on to take pictures for Tony’s “Men of WLS” calendar idea (see pics on my profile page). The pants were size 42s and the top fit perfect. I had not worn this uniform for almost 20 years and now it was too big. That blew my mind for a couple of days. That’s when my brain finally accepted that I wasn't 460lbs anymore. It still seems weird to me when I sit down in a chair that I use to rub the armrest on and I’m not even come close to them anymore. The other thing that is weird is clothes shopping, I can now fit into anything so I have actually pick clothes that look good and match and stuff, instead of just finding something that will fit my big a**.
I think people that have know us for a long time have the same imaging problem with the rapid changes we experience. They have an image in their brain of what you look like and you have changed that image in a short period of time so they need to catch up. My 85 year old mother has been telling me I am too small all the time now while I have an approx. BMI of 30. This is the same women that have pestered me repeatedly about losing weight for 10 years. She has seen me obese for the past 15 years so that is the image in her brain. She mean well but she doesn’t understand what is happening. Mom is slowly adjusting to the new me after the past few months. I still run into folks that I have not seen for 6-8 months and they are shocked and some don’t even recognize me. The complements are OK but I am still the same guys I was before just smaller.
Daniel Patrick Fluharty, NBCT
Be yourself, nobody can tell you that you are doing it wrong!!