Getting nervous and having second thoughts

Hi,

I am having my surgery in a few weeks and I am starting to get real nervous and have second thoughts.  I am not so nervous for the surgery, I feel or at least I hope I will make it through okay.  It's after the surgery that I am nervous about.  I have been reading so many stories about hernia, bowel obstructions etc.  What will life be like 10 or 20  years out.  I have two small children and I am starting to have second thoughts about doing this.  I want it so badly, but now I am getting scared. Any advice from people who have been there and are newly out of surgery, a few months out and even years out would be great. Thanks!  I am having it done at Tufts so if anyone has had it there too, any words of wisdom would be great.

Hi I think we all go through that real nervous/anxious stage about the surgery. I know I did!! But, I woke up fine..I honestly cant even remember the pain now and I'm almost 6 months out now and have lost 77lbs all together w/the 2 week diet prior. I feel great. Gone is the gerd and swollen legs and high blood pressure and I'm in a size 12 from 20!!! I 34 and have 2 kids. The only problem I had, was lactose intolerant right after for about a month ( took many many protien shakes to figure out i needed a juice one instead). Now my problem is if I eat alot of food w/sugars in them I get sick but thats my own fault I shouldn't be eating them!!!! LOL I had mine at Roger Williams and they were awesome!!! I don't know anyone whose had it done at Tufts ..sorry. You might want to try the RNY board also they are so very helpful (if rny is what you are doing)

Oh it is so normal to feel that way.  I am a bit over three years out.  I can say that it is the best thing I could have done for myself and I too have two little ones...they are WHY I did this...I wanted to live with them and not be sidelined by this body. 

I have lost 145 pounds with no regain. I will say that I had to have my Gallbladder out a year out and I have some  issues with going low blood sugar...like LOW...but I was on a death path...now I have a clear path of LIFE and could not be happier!!! 

Do it and you wont regret it.  I dont know anyone who would say differently!!  GOOD LUCK and GODSPEED

 Sick with it and do it....I was wishy washy about it for 3 years...and now I am like man I wish I did this years ago...
Believe me the things you worry about are far less detrimental than the things you will have to deal with otherwise.
My only suggestion...if they offer therapy in your program...take advantage of it...because it is a HUGE chunk of you being sucessful!!!
Good luck and remember it is a wonderful journey if you want it to be!!!

I sure hope you have found more resolve. I think we make what we can from our surgeries. I pray that you will find peace.
Linda