I'm so frustrated with everyone telling me what or how to eat ....

OKay correction I love the good advice i get from my nut, dr, support groups. But from people that don't really know what i'm going through.. and people who don't really know a thing about how i'm suposed to eat.

examples... sure..

Sister. tonight I was talking with her on the phone (she doesn't drive) and she wanted me to take her somewhere. I said i'm not sure because by the time we get there, and get home... i don't know what i'll eat before i have to go to work.  her answer... have a hot dog. I'm 2 months out. now why in the world would i want to have a hot dog?

Husband. talked about making eggs tonight. why don't I just have scrambled eggs and cheese (now usually i can handle this but the other day it didn't sit well so i swore them off for a couple days) eggs have been a staple in my diet since i could have them. I have them once a day. sometimes twice. I'm sooo sick of eggs. and i said i really don't want eggs again.

he just can't comprehend why i wouldn't eat eggs for dinner.

my answer i'll be right back.  I work 2 shifts on weekends with a little break in between. He is suposed to be in charge of taking something out for dinner so that I can cook in between my shifts he never did so i got stuck in a bind. I went to the little corner store that has a deli and sells fresh meats and such. picked up a lemon herb chicken breast. mmmm...

I just don't understand why people get so tiffy when you tell them you can't eat something (because it will make you sick) or would rather not eat something (cause you eat it every single day ). They still try to pu**** on you.

OKay usually my husband is really good about things when i say no to a food cause he usually feels i know what i can handle or should or shouldn't eat.  My mother in law and my sister on the other hand drive me CRAZY.

Luckily my mom if i'm gonna be around there for dinner she's asking soooo. could we just pick this up??? (she doesn't cook much and i don't go over often) or could you eat this or that.>? And she really tries to make it so that i'm comfortable when i'm there and understands when i say i can't eat something that i can't eat it. lol.

anyone else have a problem with people pushing them to eat things that they shouldn't or can't because their pouch just can't handle them?

I hear 'ya loud and clear.  I will say that since I had been previously banded...good food choices were often hard, so I learned that I needed to take care of myself.  So, on the way home from church today, I stopped at the grocery store and picked up some turkey(deli meat) and some fage yogurt and a whole chicken (already cooked.) those are for me good staple foods.   I knew I would be having tacos (taco meat) for dinner tonight...so those items would give me lunch, snack and get me into Monday.    I also try to keep on hand a few frozen dinners...choosen wisely ...so I also have a true last resort.   
I try to keep a protein bar in my purse incase I am out--and hungry and/or not good food choices. The protein bar also sometimes keeps the kids satisfied...and lessens the run through McDs for them. When I visit a relative for a party..I often will bring a batch of chili with me..they think I am being kind but I am really assuring I have something there I can eat.
So, I know it stinks when those around us don't always have our same mind-set, but I think preparing and putting ourselves(yourself) first will prove to be your wise choice.

Good luck, Joan

It is frustrating....just think how differently you look at food now than you did 2 months ago, you have to remember that eating disorders are usually family wide...They still think like you used to...I feel like I don't belong to my own family..They are very supportive and make sure there are thiongs I can tolerate, but I find that the family gatherings while very nice from a social aspect are very sad from an eating aspect...I get mixed emotions, I have to leave numerous times because the main focus is on hours of eating at the table...I can't handle it...i over eat and then am miserable with a headache...

You also have probably realized by now that it takes time to give a crap about yourself and that people are used to you not and ready to help them out at a moments notice....They can get rather mean when all of a sudden you need to take care of yourself and not them...They have no way to understand all this unless you tell them loud and clear...I have problems with my friends, too. We used to all just get in the car and go, well now I can't just do that I need to make sure I take along water and snacks just in case they don't eat for hours or the swing through a micky d's...I have now become the pain in the ass..

At 13 weeks post, I am now realizing the full ramifications of how sick I was in relation to eating and need to get my self to a therapist and figure out how to change the old habits and make new self supporting habits, I also need to learn to love me and take care of me...I was very bad before and find I am still very bad...