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Until my doctor noticed my ankles once when visisting her in a dress, then she sent me for tests etc and diagnosed lipodema, ok now we have a name for my large legs and batwing arms.
I had some lyposuction in the buttocks,thighs,stomach and had the fat cut off my arms, but that has all started to return .
Well done for putting the photos on and would be grateful as new member to know how you did it.
Nicole
Would love to meet up with you any time you're in town! I've enjoyed following your posts on all the boards I've seen you on.
As for the LE - that's a high compliment considering that you're the authority! I guess two years of nagging from my nurse practitioner before I got treated finally sank in (that and the pain of constantly putting off doing anything about it). Guess I had to learn the hard way!
I've recently become involved with someone who seems to think I'm pretty hot just the way I am
and didn't even notice... even when things eventually ahhh heated up. I didn't bring it up until I had to put my socks back on when getting out of bed (I can't be vertical without them, unless I want my legs to balloon up). It was no biggie for him (frankly I was more worried about the saggy skin I have in other places, but that doesn't seem to be an issue either). My advice, for what it's worth, if they know what you look like (and with online dating I make sure they have recent photos), and you take it pretty easy before pulling the intimacy trigger, then (if they're any kind of decent human being) it shouldn't be an issue. Everyone has their own baggage, it just may not be as visible as LE legs. I think if you accept yourself the way you are, and are matter-of-fact about your condition, then it's likely not to be a big deal for someone who has begun to care about YOU.
That said - yours may be much worse than mine, so proceed at your own comfort level.
It is very tough......I am no longer dating the man I was (who was very accepting) so dating again is scary. I am also contemplating weight loss surgery and this is why I have started viewing this site and seeing how others have done. I was just diagnosed with lipedema last year but my weight has steadily creeped up since this started apprx 3 years ago. I do not want to be disabled and am unsure what to do.
I agree with you too that life is not just about finding "the one" and that happiness can come from so many directions. Life does not always turn out the way we thoght it would and we can adjust and enjoy life and embrace joy in others ways.
Blessings to you in your journey,
Jennifer
I'm still looking for the right person who be as accepting as your special someone, but I'm also prepared for the possibility that it may not happen. I still believe in keeping my head up and taking pleasure in the simple things in life Nicole
Hi Nicole,
I was self conscious too but with some time while dating someone recently, I was able to trust and he was very accepting. I will tell you though that we had to negotiate having the light on or off though! That may be too much information but as the other writer said, as you get to know someone and they get to know you, the rest usually figures itself out. It is hard though especially if your lymphadema is quite severe. We tend to notice it so much more as well.
