Hi Dream Here ya go...... http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/sex_before_and_after_wls

You haven't had an answer to your post yet and it has been awhile. This is such a personal subject....I know because i have been there. I always felt that my ex picked someone that he really didn't like as a sex partner because he really didn't want to be in love with her.....he just wanted to get a rise out of me and I just got tired of playing the forgiving games. It got old and I had to move on because life is too short to be doing this. You say you love him but Why?????? Do you feel that you need to be hurt and always confused???? You can do so much better. You have lost so much weight and you have to learn to love yourself. You can do so much better for yourself. You need some healing time....time to get to know your new self. Even if you just want to give the two of you a break from the relationship.....let him realize you don't need him with all his faults. I did this six years ago and I am happy just being me and I haven't even had surgery yet (not til Aug 21st of this year). Give it a try...you may be surprised. Cathy

Wow, I am so sorry , I understand your pain but I am on the other side. I have always wanted a man to seek me and want me and when u are a "fat person" people over look u . A lot of marriage and relationships tend to break up after wls because u change. Sometimes it isn't the way u want to be but u change outside and inside and learn to appreicate new things that you have always wanted . Maybe he wanted and loved u more and felt more secure when he didnt think many were attracted to you or you weren't going anywhere . Now he knows u have gained some self esteem. You feel better inside and outside and now he knows u have to to emotionally depened on him so much. this is not your problem. This is his problem. Don't bog yourself down and stress yourself out. Kick him out or you leave. Have u thought about that ? sexy in nj

Amy we are still in need of summer clothing. Most of the clothes sent were winter items and now its getting warmer here in Ohio. We still have a great need for personal care items, soaps, wipes, deoderant, shampoo's and socks. I thank you and will send you my home address to your e mail addy. With great Appreciation, Laura