Recent Posts
Topic: Hey there.. new person :)
Y'all be gentle I'm new here lol. I had VSG on 1/26/12 with Dr. Calvin Selwyn of Ministry Medical Group in Stevens Point, WI. I have been working hard on several major life changes and one of those changes has been starting up my own Wedding Officiant/Life event Celebrant business. I do spend mad amounts of time on the VSG forum and Facebook and Twitter lol. I love being in the great outdoors hunting, fishing, hiking, whatever. A couple of my goals for this year are to compete in Ms. Fitness in Ohio in August and I would love to do retro pin-up style modeling once I reach my goal weight. I am also a budding fashionista but on a budget. I would like to be able to quit my job and really just be a wedding officiant since I love being a part of a couple's special day. Plus it would be wonderful to have time to spend with my family and since I am working on competing I could use the extra time to be working out or working on my choreography lol. I have 3 adult children and an 11 year old step-daughter. My honey owns his own construction business specializing in Victorian Home Restoration and one of the things I love is going with him and watching him transform one of the Grand Old Ladies into a vision of loveliness from a by-gone era.
Well that's probably more than you wanted to know about so I will shut up now. Looking forward to chatting further with y'all!
Well that's probably more than you wanted to know about so I will shut up now. Looking forward to chatting further with y'all!
Topic: RE: Marital Issues after surgery
I am beginning to experience a problem in my marriage that I had not plannedon. Now that I am getting closer to my goal weight... I have about 30 pounds to go. That is my goal, drs goal is only 20 more pounds.
I am finding that my husband is becoming a jealous man. Whenever we are out, in my home town where I grew up, which is near by and we go there to see my family and to shop alot. If we run into anyone, (MALE) he starts asking questions... is that someone you used to date? I was not overweight until after I had my kids. He goes into a mood where he doesn't speak to me no matter what I have said or who we have seen. If he gets it in his head that we have seen someone I used to date... he just goes into this mood. Or if we are out somewhere... anywhere and any male pays me the slightest attention... he just quits speaking to me. I am not encouraging anything or acting any differently now than I did at almost 300 lbs. Even talking to the neighbor which I have done a million times and the neighbors wife is standing right there with us!!.... now its because the neighbor is flirting!~!!
Any suggestions guys...? I have told him over and over how much I love and care for him. Its falling on deaf ears now.
He is asking me to quit losing weight now since he thinks I am too thin now... at 178lbs.
I have never seen this side of my husband. We have been married 4 year now. and I am not liking this at all. I am not acting any different. I am just 115lbs lighter.
So I am at a loss as to what to do or say.
I am finding that my husband is becoming a jealous man. Whenever we are out, in my home town where I grew up, which is near by and we go there to see my family and to shop alot. If we run into anyone, (MALE) he starts asking questions... is that someone you used to date? I was not overweight until after I had my kids. He goes into a mood where he doesn't speak to me no matter what I have said or who we have seen. If he gets it in his head that we have seen someone I used to date... he just goes into this mood. Or if we are out somewhere... anywhere and any male pays me the slightest attention... he just quits speaking to me. I am not encouraging anything or acting any differently now than I did at almost 300 lbs. Even talking to the neighbor which I have done a million times and the neighbors wife is standing right there with us!!.... now its because the neighbor is flirting!~!!
Any suggestions guys...? I have told him over and over how much I love and care for him. Its falling on deaf ears now.
He is asking me to quit losing weight now since he thinks I am too thin now... at 178lbs.
I have never seen this side of my husband. We have been married 4 year now. and I am not liking this at all. I am not acting any different. I am just 115lbs lighter.
So I am at a loss as to what to do or say.
Blessings to you all, Leah 
Topic: RE: XXX question
Nope no problem at all- Tell hubby to go for it, you will have no problem doing it and yes because it's protein its good for you and because it's not a solid it goes right down. Don't be afraid of it at all. You will also find that as you loose weight the positions and the overall sex gets a whole lot better. Enjoy!!.
Ira
Ira
Ira H Sansolo
Obesity Help Support Group Coach
Co-Leader "Its up to you"
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/UpToMe/
" The secret is, there is no secret, you just have to believe."
(From Kung Fu Panda)
Topic: Hi I/we are new here too
I am Tom. My wife Teresa and I are both having Rouen Y Gastric Bypass surgery March 23, 2009. We have an alternative lifestyle. We both live with our sue in a polyamorous triad D/s intentional family. We are all three of us going through this adventure together with sue serving as our primary support person and home care assistant to both of us.
I don't know if there are any others here who share our family dynamic in terms of either polyamory or a BDSM lifestyle. If people are interested in following our progress as we pass through this, we have a Blog about our bariatric surgical experience at [email protected].
It would be interesting to know if there are any others here who share our alternative lifestyle and/or sensual/erotic orientation. (There is such a huge correlation between obesity and those in the BDSM community, it would be surprising if we are not representative of a subset of this OH's membership.)
Thank you for the opportunity to see if we are able to identify others with similar lifestyle dynamics to our own. It would be nice to know we are not alone as we go through this. It would be good to find people with whom we can be who we are without pretense.
Tom (Raheretic)
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined.
I don't know if there are any others here who share our family dynamic in terms of either polyamory or a BDSM lifestyle. If people are interested in following our progress as we pass through this, we have a Blog about our bariatric surgical experience at [email protected].
It would be interesting to know if there are any others here who share our alternative lifestyle and/or sensual/erotic orientation. (There is such a huge correlation between obesity and those in the BDSM community, it would be surprising if we are not representative of a subset of this OH's membership.)
Thank you for the opportunity to see if we are able to identify others with similar lifestyle dynamics to our own. It would be nice to know we are not alone as we go through this. It would be good to find people with whom we can be who we are without pretense.
Tom (Raheretic)
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined.
Topic: RE: XXX question
Yeah, you are good to go...and no, there is no a lot of protein in there to make any kind of difference
The big guy has been here....
Topic: RE: Marital Issues after surgery
I dont even want to get started. One of the reasons I went for the surgery cause I felt that I would be more attractive to my spouse. Yeah, dont think so
The big guy has been here....
Topic: RE: Looking to get out.
A quick word of advice from someone *****cently ended a long-term (15-year) relationship: do not immediately seek out someone to "replace" your husband/ex. Although you certainly deserve a happy, loving relationship, it's important to work through the issues that have been created by the ending/changing of your relationship with your husband. If you do not address those issues and work through grieving the end/change in that relationship now, they will keep cropping up in your future until you finally address them. Trust me, I know...
Good luck on your continuing journey -
Kellie
Good luck on your continuing journey -
Kellie
Topic: RE: Marital Issues after surgery
I have experienced significant issues in my primary relationship (I'm a lesbian), to such an extent that that relationship has recently ended. I'm not sure how much of the ending of the relationship is related to my weight loss, but I'm sure it's partially to "blame."
In addition to losing weight, I've changed in a lot of other ways in the three years since my surgery. I've continued my journey of personal growth and awareness, and it's hard to say how much of that is related to the weight loss and how much of it's attributable to where I'm at in my life (early 40s). In my case, I think my relationship would have ended or at least change significantly regardless of the weight loss, but I will honestly never know.
I would encourage you to maintain open lines of communication with your spouse/partner about what's happening with/to you. Although those discussions can be difficult, those open lines of communication are key to a healthy relationship; have the discussions even when they are hard. Be open, be honest, be truthful, both with your spouse/partner and with yourself....
Good luck on your continuing journey -
Kellie
Topic: Marital Issues after surgery
Has anyone experienced distance or marital issues with their spouse after surgery?
Is your spouse happy with the new you? Or is it you that has changed and they don't understand?
Most Active
Recent Topics
