Looking to get out.

I had a wonderful marriage for 23 yrs prior to surgery. Then my husband decided it wasn't worth it to be married to a woman *****gained her self esteem and became attractive to other men. I have never acted on any of the things men have done to me like whistle at me or blew their horns at me or tried to talk to me in the store because I loved this man so much. Now he treats me like I'm not even there and he's no longer interested in me intimately or physically. My life has become so lonely that the only thing for me to do is to leave and go out on my own. I am disabled( I have Fibromyalgia) and a disabled son with a brain tumor , my life has been devoted to everyone but me and now it's my turn for a little happiness. I never wanted things to end this way but , it's beyond my control because you can't make someone love you if the loves already gone........! I'm a 44 yr young black Christian woman interested in chatting with a single man who may be a pre-op or a post-op. I'm an artist who's main joy in life right now is painting and being with my kids( I have 2 adult children who are on their own , two at home and two grandchildren). My husband got to the point where he didn't even want them around, can you imagine not wanting your own kids and grandchildren around ? I want to escape this marriage and find someone who would appreciate holding me in his arms at night,and making love to me. I'm a one mans woman and believe I could love again. So if your interested email me and let's build a friendship and see where it leads ?

Hello, I am not a single male but a married christian women who would like to lend an ear of support. I dont know what religion you are ...and it really doesnt matter as long as it is Bible based...but if your husband leaves your home...you have done nothing wrong. Continue to pray. God has seen you through this much and he is not going to leave you now. I can understand your loneliness...look up to Jesus!!! He is your comforter. He will never leave you. Sometimes we have to go through things for God to make us stronger. Please do not throw your self into another relationship to get over your husband (been there done that)...instead get into your bible...keep busy with your grand children. Its your husbands lost and you will be fine. I will pray with you, Lord Jesus, You hear her cry to you Lord. She is alone. Please be her strength in this time of need. Bless her Lord. Consume her soul. Let her feel your presence. Send her a friend Lord to confide in. Let her know that she is never alone if she Trust in YOu. In Jesus name I pray, Amen God Bless you and keep you and your family safe Cherish-Louisiana

Girl, you have got to start living for yourself. If your marriage does you more harm than good then it is time to move on. You'll respect yourself more if you end it first before finding someone new. And believe me, a man is not the answer to all your prayers....you have a new world opening up to you. Yes, you do deserve someone who will love and cherish you, and yes, if your husband is not that man than he needs to go, but take time first to make sure you know what you truly want. A lot of time has passed since you were last single and what you want out of a relationship has probably changed as well. Start investing in yourself, embrace your artistic nature. Let your husband know it's now time for you. He can either be on the bus, or under it! Kelle

Wow, I am so sorry , I understand your pain but I am on the other side. I have always wanted a man to seek me and want me and when u are a "fat person" people over look u . A lot of marriage and relationships tend to break up after wls because u change. Sometimes it isn't the way u want to be but u change outside and inside and learn to appreicate new things that you have always wanted . Maybe he wanted and loved u more and felt more secure when he didnt think many were attracted to you or you weren't going anywhere . Now he knows u have gained some self esteem. You feel better inside and outside and now he knows u have to to emotionally depened on him so much. this is not your problem. This is his problem. Don't bog yourself down and stress yourself out. Kick him out or you leave. Have u thought about that ? sexy in nj

A quick word of advice from someone *****cently ended a long-term (15-year) relationship:  do not immediately seek out someone to "replace" your husband/ex.  Although you certainly deserve a happy, loving relationship, it's important to work through the issues that have been created by the ending/changing of your relationship with your husband.  If you do not address those issues and work through grieving the end/change in that relationship now, they will keep cropping up in your future until you finally address them.  Trust me, I know... 

Good luck on your continuing journey -

Kellie