I'm struggling-dont know what to do!

It sounds like you do know what to do, Sherry, but like the rest of us, you just aren't quite doing all that you could.  Follow the rules you set here for yourself as well as the good advice from others.

Stop comparing yourself to others-every person and every band is unique.

Get back to the surgeon for a fill and follow up regularly (whatever you and your surgeon feel is appropriate) so that you can get the optimum use from the tool that you have. 

Keep us posted, there are lots of good people here who can help.

The band is a process. Fills are important, and there is no correct amount for everybody, it is based on your body. Then there is the brain which has to learn to adjust to a life of food for fuel, not to solve every problem. It is complex, and takes time and effort. Let us know about your doctors appointment, and keep getting fills until you feel restriction. Work on positive self talk, and keep posting. Welcome to the board. 

1. I should have kept my appointments and continued to get my fills.  Yes, follow up appointments are to ensure you're making progress, complication free and evaluate your need for fill.  Don't beat yourself up, you can start over exactly where you left off...

2. I have 6 cc's in my band and should have some kind of restriction by now. Most of my friends who have the band have had little to no fills and lost 100lbs in 6 months or so. I know I shouldnt base my progress on them, but it makes me feel bad for needing extra fills?? (I realize how ridiculous this sounds..believe me). Everyone is different, I had only 3.5 cc in my 11cc band and ended up too tight...others need to be filled almost to the max to feel a difference.  Don't compare yourself to others on ANY level...that mindset is what helped get us here.

3. I am afraid that maybe the band just isnt for me, but also realize I havent really utilized it at all. I have convinced myself that I will never have that restriction and Im afraid to get a fill and nothing happen..and then I'd really freak out.  You said it...you haven't given it a fair chance.  Your negative self talk is convincing you that you won't succeed.  The band doesn't do the work, you do.  It just helps you to feel satiated between meals.  Take ownership of the situation and you will take back your power to succeed!

I honestly cant imagine what it would be like to literally be full on such a small amount. I cant eat exactly as much as I used to be able to too..but tonight I had 2 pieces of pizza with no problem. I can eat them pretty fast, no problems with big bites..etc. I know a big part of my problem is I need to get back to following the rules. But just really need some help with feeling some kind of restriction. It was a huge psychological thing for me when I was putting in all this effort and seeing that scale stay the same. Please..any advice or any encouragement would help. I know I seem like a spaz, but something has to give. Shouldnt someone who is over half full in their band be having some kind of restriction??  Again, the first rule is "there are no one size fits all" rules...everyone is unique in their response to banding, fills and unfills.  Get back in the game, follow the direction of your doctor and nutritionist and you might find yourself hitting it out of the park.  Keep us posted, we're here to support you, even give you a nudge.

Steph