need help here

The previous posters left some nice ideas.  But, I also wanted to say that you need to give yourself a break too.  You are dealing with a lot of difficult life issues.  I'm sure your days are full and at times you've got to be mentally and physically tired.  It sounds like your days are very long.  It's nice to see that you are able to think about your own well being while taking care of your mom and your partner.