Wondering if I should even bother anymore
There's so much more bullcrap involved on OH than there used to be. From people "Mommy Buttoning" out of spite and unexplained moderation/removal/moving of posts I have to wonder if it's even worth it to keep posting on OH or, specifically, the LB Board.
Selected factions, shall we say, seem to be able to run wild, say and do anything, without any problem at all, and when I try to help people, especially terrified, freaked out newbies, I get kicked in the ass.
Lord knows, there is nothing fun about it anymore, I'm just so tired of it all. After nine years, I'm about ready to leave you all to the wolves.
Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but I'm just not having a good day.
Selected factions, shall we say, seem to be able to run wild, say and do anything, without any problem at all, and when I try to help people, especially terrified, freaked out newbies, I get kicked in the ass.
Lord knows, there is nothing fun about it anymore, I'm just so tired of it all. After nine years, I'm about ready to leave you all to the wolves.
Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but I'm just not having a good day.
Banded 10 years & maintaining my weight loss!! Any questions, message me.
I'm not leaving, just wondering. I know, from having been there, that it's really, really scary before and after your surgery, and having people try to scare MORE crap out of you is just mean.
Telling every band person who has a MINOR problem that they need a revision is just mean.
And on the other hand, telling people misguided or flat-out wrong information is stupid and dangerous.
Telling people that the band can never fail except when they screw it up is just stupid.
I find myself now unwilling to defend the people who have lost their bands. I am tired of saying that yes, they have a right to post here and yes, people need to hear both sides of the story. But some people - who I considered OH friends - have gotten so nasty and antagonistic that I find myself agreeing when someone asks, "Why are they still here?"
With most of the long-time bandsters - successful or un-, posting only on the Vets board or not at all, I've tried to stay to let people know that there IS hope, that not EVERY band fail, and that someone is still trying to help them on this journey.
Telling people who don't like me and/or my posts and opinions that they can jsut ignore me doesn't work. Blocking people myself doesn't work. Perhaps it's time for me to do what the antagonizers have done: create a fake persona and report EVERY little thing that *I* don't like.
Telling every band person who has a MINOR problem that they need a revision is just mean.
And on the other hand, telling people misguided or flat-out wrong information is stupid and dangerous.
Telling people that the band can never fail except when they screw it up is just stupid.
I find myself now unwilling to defend the people who have lost their bands. I am tired of saying that yes, they have a right to post here and yes, people need to hear both sides of the story. But some people - who I considered OH friends - have gotten so nasty and antagonistic that I find myself agreeing when someone asks, "Why are they still here?"
With most of the long-time bandsters - successful or un-, posting only on the Vets board or not at all, I've tried to stay to let people know that there IS hope, that not EVERY band fail, and that someone is still trying to help them on this journey.
Telling people who don't like me and/or my posts and opinions that they can jsut ignore me doesn't work. Blocking people myself doesn't work. Perhaps it's time for me to do what the antagonizers have done: create a fake persona and report EVERY little thing that *I* don't like.
Banded 10 years & maintaining my weight loss!! Any questions, message me.
Wow. Less than 7 minutes to get dumped here.
5.0 cc in a 10cc lapband (four fills) 1 unfill of .5cc on 5/24/2011.
.5 fill March 2012. unfill of .25cc May 2012. Unfill of .5cc June 2014.
Still with my lapband with no plans for revision. Band working well since
last small unfill.
HW: 267lbs- size 22-24 LW:194lbs CW:198lbs Size 14-16
Bette, I am sticking to here, the Bandgrads group and the Shananagans group!
I also tried to be a middle point between the Band is Useless and the Band is Perfect factions. But it gets BORING. Let the B is U group have the lb board and the B is P faction have their Queen Nablowme group! Good luck to them?
Shame for the newbies!
Kate
Highest 290, Banded - 248 Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.
Happily banded since May 2006. Regain of 28lbs 2013-14. ALL GONE!
But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,
You're the only one being antagonistic. You have the tough chick shtick down pat... why don't you try to be authentic instead? You're all about "speaking your mind" but if anyone else does it, we're ******s?
I answered you yesterday with honesty and respect. You can't say the same, can you?
I answered you yesterday with honesty and respect. You can't say the same, can you?
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