No support

 I'm looking deeply into the Lap Band and it seems the safets and most sure way to lose weight...
HOWEVER, my Fiance is not supporting my desicion.
I have an 8 month old and i want to watch him grow up and not sit at the sidelines because of weight.

EVERY time I got to lose weight he tells me how I don't need to and how he loves me the way i am and while that sounds amazing for him loving me no matter what, it isn't... Anytime i mention weightloss it starts a fight. I have a back disorder and with my weight gail it makes it hard to excersice I'm also asthmatic and have slight depression... I was wondering if there is anything I could do to change his mind and make him understand?

Unfortunately there's nothing you can do or say to change his mind- but (not to sound harsh)- are you doing this for you or for him? You're doing it for you. It is MUCH nicer to have support, but as long as you're committed and can deal with his not being on board, do it for YOU and what YOU know you need to do for your health.

I hate to say it, but he may be afraid you'll leave him after you lose weight, he may be jealous, etc- men often have these fears but don't say them as they are not manly, LOL.

Good luck, this was one of the best decisions I've made. Banded 1/26/12, lost over 60 lbs so far (started at 284). 

haha everyone is telling me that >_> I would never do that to him but I guess after this is all said and done he will realise it was what's best.

 It's not a matter of what HE likes. If your weight shortens your life - which certainly is possible for all of us - both he and YOUR CHILD will be without you forever. 

You need to do this for YOU and for that little one.

What can you say to change his mind? "Honey, I love you, but I'm not doing this for you. I'm doing it for me and for him. And would you prefer to have me thinner, or dropping dead early from an obesity-related disease?"

 Well, it is great that he loves you no matter what size you are. I am lucky to have a spouse of 28+ yrs who thinks that about me. But this is about YOU.

Your health is what is important. I did this surgery (band/plication) because of my 3 month granddaughter. I want to be able to walk with her and shop and play. I made the decision to do it for me.  I want to be healthy. Just like you.

All I can say is tell him you love him, and that you need the support and that you will not change (not your heart/mind) but your body will be healthier. 

All the best Bre.

My husband was not supportive either.  I finally just said to him...

"I love you dearly and I know you don't agree with my decision, and for that I'm sorry.  But I am going to have surgery because I'm scared I'm going to have a stroke. And after years of trying, I have not been able to lose weight on my own." 

I even offered to leave him out of it completely if he felt really strongly about not being involved...offered to have a friend take me to the hospital, stay with me if I needed help afterwards, etc....  He came around and was with me every step of the way.

Just approach your guy from a place of love and I bet he'll come around too.  And if he doesn't, still do what's best for you.

ps...that baby of yours is a DOLL FACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 Well thank you! ^_^
He's my first and looks just like his father haha.

I was in your shoes. I wanted the Lap Band. It seemed the safest, and definitely the cheapest. It was the worst mistake of my life. Please research the band. It has a 30% failure rate. My Dr doesn't even do them anymore... Bc she takes 3 out a week!

 if it doesn't work, i can alway get itremoved... so there's that. 
Gastric isn't right for me I know that much.
I was never really "taught" to eat right.