havent been on in a while life is finally back to normal-

so i got a new job which provides me with insurance  havent seen my surgeon in 3 months because of insurance issues-also i am embarrased that well i havent lost any weight since before my last visit. 50 pounds since surgery 90 pounds lost total :) I feel great and even tho this isnt goal i like how i look. I still eat small amounts but sometimes dont make the right choices :/ dont we all? Well my family is really pushing me saying i stoped losing weight and it makes me feel real down cuz i do want to lose more but i just started a new job and trying to get a new apartment i have other things i am focusing on now. I do watch what i eat and get alot of physical activity at my new job and do try to make it to the gym two times a week... the family situation really got me stress :? help

I know how you feel. My situation is that I lost all my excess weight then gained some back. My dad seems very dissapointed. He sometimes comments on what I'm eating. I have had a hard time staying consistent. I got most of the junk food out of the house, that is a relief and I think will help. Well, don't really have a solution, but just know your not alone. Good luck!

Nice to see you back......I pop in every once in a while. 

You wrote : I feel great and even tho this isn't goal i like how i look.............. maybe we as Women need to start redefining what is "goal" or maybe it's because I have hit 50 and been battling being overweight and obesity all my life I am just tired of the diets and ultimately having surgery to be a certain weight......

Maybe it should be enough to feel great, be healthy and like how we look even though it isn't what society, a doctor (goal) or family members (don't even get me started on that) state it should be.  

I feel the same way you do now after losing 90 pounds but didn't get to my "goal".  I didn't realize it though till I had an unfill in November right before the holidays and only two months later in January when I found myself 17 pounds higher than my September weight which was10 on top of my lowest gained due to a groin pull in September.....so all in all 27 pounds higher than the lowest I got to with the band. 
On January 26th.....I'll never forget the day I stepped on the scale in the Surgeons office...total devastation as to how I could let myself gain that weight back.....(the 10 wasn't too worried about could still fit in my new clothes I bought and I couldn't work out due to injury) but the other 17??? Really???

I was devastated but only have myself to blame...didn't realize how much I needed my band, and just ate and ate not weighing myself (no accountability)...the Surgeon and his staff however were very supportive and my biggest cheerleaders (so don't worry too much about going back)....so I started back determined to get the 27 pounds off....(now 4 years later it is not coming off as fast as before) but I will get it off it it kills me....

My point is looking back now at my pictures and the clothes I bought when I lost the 90 pounds
I think I looked good and would do anything at this point to be there..........but at the time I had the mindset that I wasn't yet at goal, needed to lose that other 10, 20 maybe even 30 pounds then I would be happy.
 
Maybe if I would have just started enjoying life for once, accepting that I wasn't what anyone else wanted me to be at (goal, size ect..) and see that I had no more co-morbidity's, I wasn't obese, I could buy "average size clothing" and just live without being winded and depressed........

Now I see that maybe for "ME" I was at goal.......and that I need to forget that last 10-20-30... and redefine what is goal.....  I do believe it is important to be healthy and fit but do I need to be a single digit size?.......not just no hell no.

OK, I can get off my soapbox now LOL..... you will do what is right for you......YOU...no one else.

Michele