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 I know I am asking a lot of questions but I feel no one understands more then someone who is or has been through it. What do you do when you have close family members who don't support your wt. Loss and try to bring bad things into the house. 

My husband today brought home 2 boxes of glaze donuts and put them on the counter. I objected and then he was just going to put them in the pantry. I got real upset and said I don't want them in the house. I tried to tell him the way I felt but he thinks I am being over sensitive and that to him it was no big deal. I think it is a real big deal. I just had surgery a little over a week ago and glaze donuts were a big issue with me as I love them.  Right now I just feel very hurt. How has others dealt with this issue?

OK, take a breath, because temptation like this will always be around you for the rest of your days.  You and only you have the choice to put what food goes into you mouth.

If you have a happy relationship with your husband I suggest you do the following.

1.  Make him a nice cup of coffee/glass of milk/ or whatever he would normally drink with his donut.  Serve said donut and drink to him with a smile.

2.  Go to sink and put all the donuts down the disposal.  Or go put them outside in the bin.

I was about 7 months out and down about 75lbs.  Got thru all the holidays without giving in to the yummy food around me.  I was feeling really good about myself and then Valentines day comes.  My hubby ( l really do love the lug head ) bought me home a box of Godiva Chocolates.  OMG  !!! love them.  I looked at him and said REALLY !!!  He said he was so proud of me and all the hard work I was doing staying on track.  Still cannot understand that logic.  I took 1 chocolate because I am a human female after all.  I told him I loved him and if he wanted a chocolate he better grab it fast.  I took the chocolates to my sons and said the same to them.  When they all took what the wanted I took the box out to the bin and threw it away.

This is your exciting time when you are focused and on a mission to get the weight off.  Do whatever you can to make that happen..  If his feelings get hurt.,  Oh well he will just have to sleep on the couch tonight LOL

I am lucky because when my husband became diabetic and I was still eating everything in the house he also had trigger foods. I quit bringing them into the house and he has been a doll for me now that it is my turn.

You will get thru this.

Let him eat them. Put them in a brown bag or freeze them. Unfortunately if we push our family can begin to resent the changes. Especially if they were eating buddies. It will take time to adjust to the entire band thing in many ways. Take a day when things are good and have a good honest discussion. Attack the situation but not the person. Be assertive but point out the extreme effort you have gone through and how you need as much support as possible. If they can't comply ask them to find a place to store where you don't know. Talk about other alternatives. Something you both might like. My husband sometimes can sabatoge me. However our new agreed upon treat is cereal or animal cookies. I don't eat a lot and it doesnt pour a guilt trip on me if I eat a few. I really just don't anymore. it's one baby step at a time. My hub is eating all I have left over on my plate and he is not thin so this will be our next little discussion plus he is eating much more since my band was tightened.

Good luck and communication is the key.

 The thing is he is diabetic also and shouldn't have them. He is very thin so he doesn't have the weight porblems that I have. I know I probable went a little pyschotic on him, but glaze donuts are a very big weakness of mine. I could finish off 4-5 in one sitting. I know it is a change for him also so I will let it rest for awhile and then have a discussion when I am more calm!!!!!!!!

Thanks for all your advice.

Sounds like a plan. And you're right, he doesn't need them either. Sounds like he needs diabetes education! Trust me, coming from a diabetic who is working to get off insulin and then meds...

 We had a calm conversation about the issue. He thought I could still have a bite of a glaze donut, he didn't know I couldn't have any. So he told me he would work harder at not bringing those type of items into the house. Only time will tell.

 Glad to hear! Definitely a start! One day at a time,,,,,:)

Unfortunately I don't know how to tell you to respond. I felt I never got the support needed from my now ex-husband. He was extremely overweight and was ALWAYS bringing in junk food. I could definitely see the changes in his kids too with all that junk around. I tried but I did fail at times too. Now that we are divorced it is my own fault if the junk is in the house. I hope the "little talk" you mentioned works for you both. You need his support for sure.