Helpful or Harmful?
Jean,
I so agree with you. It is easy to get caught up the emotions of a discussion. Before you know it you are pontificating about a subject rather than responding to a post. SUPPORT is the key word here. Ask yourself, “Does my response offer the support the person is asking?" If it meets that test, then by all means offer your opinion even if it is “tough love".
So often people who are unhappy for whatever reason (you fill in the reason), come to forums as a way to vent their frustrations and “educate" people on consequences and danger. Is this support? To a point it could be but we must realize when we go over the line and pontificate. It’s then time to go to the Rants and Raves Forum and let it rip.
The bottom line is that people come to a forum for help and advice. Think about how counselors, psychologists and mediators work. They do their work in a positive manner. Seems like a good pattern for us to follow.
Ask yourself before you hit “Submit", “Does this reply SUPPORT the person, does it SUPPORT others reading this post, does it SUPPORT this forum, and does it SUPPORT me as a valued member of the forum?
Tom
I so agree with you. It is easy to get caught up the emotions of a discussion. Before you know it you are pontificating about a subject rather than responding to a post. SUPPORT is the key word here. Ask yourself, “Does my response offer the support the person is asking?" If it meets that test, then by all means offer your opinion even if it is “tough love".
So often people who are unhappy for whatever reason (you fill in the reason), come to forums as a way to vent their frustrations and “educate" people on consequences and danger. Is this support? To a point it could be but we must realize when we go over the line and pontificate. It’s then time to go to the Rants and Raves Forum and let it rip.
The bottom line is that people come to a forum for help and advice. Think about how counselors, psychologists and mediators work. They do their work in a positive manner. Seems like a good pattern for us to follow.
Ask yourself before you hit “Submit", “Does this reply SUPPORT the person, does it SUPPORT others reading this post, does it SUPPORT this forum, and does it SUPPORT me as a valued member of the forum?
Tom
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Hi Jean,
I haven't been on the site in a while, because of all the negativity that was going on here. I really enjoy all that you write and love the newsletter. You are a true inspiration to so many of us.
Thank you for all you do for us.
I haven't been on the site in a while, because of all the negativity that was going on here. I really enjoy all that you write and love the newsletter. You are a true inspiration to so many of us.
Thank you for all you do for us.
Wendy 
1st fill 4cc, 2nd fill 1.5cc 3rd fill 1.5cc 4th fill .5 Total 7.5 cc in my 11cc Realize Band.
Reached 1st goal weight 158 on 6/8/10, My Starting weight 235
Hit final goal of 145 10/25/10
Current weight 143
If you work the band the band will work for you.
1st fill 4cc, 2nd fill 1.5cc 3rd fill 1.5cc 4th fill .5 Total 7.5 cc in my 11cc Realize Band.
Reached 1st goal weight 158 on 6/8/10, My Starting weight 235
Hit final goal of 145 10/25/10
Current weight 143
If you work the band the band will work for you.
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