I need sum advice ...plz help

I dont know if i am even in  the right spot or  not,  I have been struggling with my weight for over 10 years,ive had 6kids ,and delt with my depression through it all ,some with medication ,and some just on my own, i am now realizing that my depression is at its worst ,i need to do something about my weight ,everday i want to die when i know i am going to walk by a mirror,
or even leave my house where someone might see me,i absolutely hate myself,i dont even know where to start looking for help, who to talk to, i have tried diets,pills,teas,gyms,plans and  stillnothing, i cantafford surgury but i need to do something please any advice or direction is greatly appreciated!!!!!

I just have a few minutes before I have to get ready for work but your post just breaks my heart this morning. You are so not alone in how you are feeling. It doesn't sound like you are ready for surgery yet because it is a big step and it won't fix what makes you eat, you know?

Can you exercise for 8 minutes a day? I've been using Jorge cruises 8 minute a day workout and it is really easy to follow. It could be a start for you to start feeling better about youraelf. I found a used copy of the book real cheap on amazon.com.

I wish I could think of something better t say but it's all I have at the moment. Hang around here and some lovely souls will come along soon and see your post.

Please feel free to PM me

Jolena

Hi Jolene
Thanks for the reply, however i am more than ready for surgury, i have tried everything, as for what i eat, i am so picky what goes into my body, i am so ready for a big change, but its like i have gotten this big and thats all i can think about, i want to be able to look in a mirror and not want to sma**** i want to be able to leave my house and feel confident, that not everyone is looking at my uglyness, i have trird and tried to loose weight on my own, but i just dojt have the money to keep going to the gym, i got a wii fit and still that didnt help, i walk to the store instead of driving, im just so fed up with the way i feel and look, that most days suicide seems the only way out from these feelings.

Imo Lap-Band would be the worst possible thing you could do. Too many complications!!! Look into RNY, VSG or DS. They are much more effective WLS's!

As far as the depression, get some counceling. Get on some meds if you need to. A lot of obese ppl are depressed. Sometimes the depression leads to obesity, sometimes it comes after the obesity.

I would recoommend gradually changing your lifestyle. Start walking more. Park at the back of the parking lot. Maybe do the mall walking. Try to adopt a WLS diet. Do high protein, lower carb, sugar and fat. No drinking with meals or at least 30 mins. after. Start reading labels. Keep a lot of healthy snacks in the house..........for you AND the kids!

Good luck!