people are getting to me

I am not sure if this is a rant or a question...

I knew somethings would change after surgery, but I don't think I was prepared for the people around me to change so much. Is it me or them??? They think they can say what ever they want to me...you need new clothes they are too big, should you be eating that, is that all you are going to eat, look at you being all cute...

I know some of my clothes are too big i can not buy a whole new wardrobe at every size!
If I am eating it then yes I should be! no one said any thing when i weighed almost 300lbs.
Yes that is all I am going to eat that's all I want I didn't say anything about the food on your plate.
If being Cute means wearing the new uniform that fits to work or that now when i go out i like to put a little effort into what i am wearing then yes I am being cute.

The one person i know that has had the lap band and lost 100lbs. Makes constant negative comments about over weight people and she deleted all of her "fat" pictures off her online profile because she doesn't want to be that person anymore and thinks I should do the same.

Well, NO I like my "fat" pictures. They are pictures of my past and i love my past. They are my kids birthday's, vacations, holiday's or just random memories that i felt were important enough to take a picture to remember.

The guys that now all the sudden think I am fun to be around or that my "ass looks nice in my jeans"...My husband has always thought so! 

So I don't think I have changed that much, but I am starting to think maybe I should start making some BIG changes with people I let in my life.

hi Tina-

i don't think i can really "help' as i've just started my lap band journey...but yep, my husband has always thought me beautiful with a great a** .  I think sometimes people are intimidated by those who decide to go and try their best to achieve, and yes, there is such fat predjudice out there, it isn't funny.

I just wanted to say that i know where you are coming from and yep, you ARE looking cute!

betsey

Thank you.  I wish you all the luck in your Journey!!!

I don't know, but I have some of the same experiences.

My co-workers feel free to tell me when my pants are getting too baggy. It's so annoying. Right now some 10s look like I'm pouring my thighs into them but 12s look like they are about to fall off of me. I can't help it. So, it's either the baggy look or the stuffed look and I don't like the stuffed look!

But that is all besides the point  because I would never dream to comment on what they are wearing!!!

Plus there is one co-worker who will say, "Hey, how much do you weigh??" lol I'm like, "You can't ask people that!"

People are crazy.

lol I do not like the stuffed look either. No matter what i pick comfort over looks :)

I think they are jealous!! I think it is great!
I too have co-workers saying my clothes are too big! I laugh and now only wear skirts. I have shrunk out of my pants. I don't feel it is time to buy new clothes since I think I am down from 24w to 22w so I will wait till my skirts fall off lol
I just updated my ticker tonight to 42 pounds lost!
I wish you good luck with continued weight loss and to heck with them!

 I think we and the people around us change as we lose weight, especially significant amounts of weight.  I found it hard to have attention drawn to my appearance, even when it was good comments.  Things I had always wanted or dreamed of hearing made me anxious as I was losing.  I came to the conclusion (after therapy and thinking about it a lot) that it's really no one's business but my own.  period.  I share with those I find helpful and for those I don't I will simply thank them for their comment or say something like, "oh really?  interesting" and then change the subject.  I have also changed.  I am much more confident and I don't tolerate people treating me poorly anymore.  I like to dress nicely and take pride in my appearance.  I've gotten a new position and a nice raise along with it.  Most of the time all the above is great ..it's what I wanted.  But I must confess there is a part of me that still wants to hide in my fat clothes and eat ice cream...lol...still.  I realized my own social anxiety is my worst enemy.  I think others may feel the same.  Change is hard.

lol the ice cream and fat clothes had my laughing like crazy.  I have those days hear and there and they are hard. Today has been one of those days. I still feel like the biggest person in the room and i know i have to get over that. I am very defensive of the person i once was because i am still her.

ugh some people are so stupid!!! i have heard it all just like u alot of people were againgst me having surgery in the first place but WHO GIVES A F*** BOUT WHAT THEY THINK!!! its our lives we decide what to do !!!
stay strong and keep looking beautiful stay focus on the goal and try and stay away from negative people:)


on the losers bench and it feels so good:)

Well said I am so done with worrying what people think. I know a lot of people didn't think i would lose any weight with surgery and now that i am they think i want to hear what they have to say NO i don't.

Keep up the great work :) You look great!