Saw a psychologist yesterday

I saw a psychologist yesterday as part of my surgery package. She said I probably have an eating disorder (well, before the band). Now I have the band things are much more in control. I have only had 6 tiny squares of chocolate over the Easter period. That is the only junk I've had since mid-Feb (my band went in mid-April). I told her I feel as though I have no self control and she pointed out that I have, as I had had no junk food for 5 months, and I am working hard on controlling my portion sizes (1 cup three times a day, and 1 small snack in the afternoon when I am genuinely physically hungry). We worked on goals for the short, mid and long term, including exercise, weight loss, doing activities to substitute for eating. We acknowledged my losses that came with the band (loss of comfort eating, loss of some eating for taste/pleasure, loss of going out to restaurants with my husband). And worked on more activities I can do by myself and with DH. Overall it was a positive experience and I came out a lot happier than I went in. Also she said to have 1 small treat a week, in order to prevent binges and 'secret eating' that I used to do, and eat that small treat when I'm feeling happy, and not to use it to perk me up when I'm feeling anxious/low/bored. We also agreed that I CAN go to restaurants as I trust in my experience and knowledge to order healthy food.

Cat.

Wow- sounds like the meeting went great.  You talked about a lot of important issues.  I think you are well on your way to a healthier, happier you.  I woiuld keep touching base with the psychologist, she/he seems really good.  That's great you felt better coming out than going in, I think that's how it should work.  Keep it up!

I like the idea of eating the treat when happy.  That's an approach that had not occured to me!

And yes, restaurants are ok.. if they have healthy choices.  We've gotten brave enough to walk out of them when they didn't have things I could eat.  

Yes, I know most people have smart-phones and can check menu's online.. I don't have one.. yet.  :)

Cat,

I'm so glad you did that and that the session went well. That psychologist sounds like a good one and I'd keep her telephone number in a safe place so you know who to call if you're struggling or floundering in the future.

Jean

It sounds as if that visit was extremely productive! Your self control has really grown. Remember, most of that is you with the band only doing about 20%. Give your self credit and a big pat on the back. You are doing a fantastic job, keep up the good work.

Thanks guys, you are all a big help too. OH is a great support. I have another 4 sessions with the psychologist paid for by the clinic, and I will be attending them, and doing my 'homework' in between. I have also started attending the bi-monthly support groups.

Cat.

Awsome!  You are getting great support to go along with the tool of the lapband.  I think it's really important.  We need to work on our emotional reasons for eating for long term success.  You are well on your way!