Ever happen with you?

Ok, I was banded back in Feb. MY wonderful husband is upset that I didnt lose 10 lbs this month only 8, my dr thinks this is great, my bmi is under 40 I walk daily and just those few words made me want to bury my head in shame and eat everything in sight. He is supportive most days but ever just want to trade in for a quieter model....lol

I think your wonderful husband needs to go to support group with you and get schooled.  

I'm sorry he's less than supportive at the moment, but don't let his attitude determine yours!!

Turn it around, and let it drive you to further success.  Turn his "upset" into your motivation.  I've heard other people say that when someone said something negative to them that they took their emotional response and used it to give them more gumption and force to work harder.

And unless he's also had WLS, he's in no position to judge.  Hang in there.

Don't tell him what your weight loss is. He doesn't need to know if he's going to criticize you.
Just tell him what he thinks he wants to hear, and keep him at peace.
Husbands often have weird reactions to diets and weight loss. I can't figure it out! Mine is a whole other post!!
Best,
Mary

ONLY 8, just think if you lost ONLY 8 a month?? Remember the average is 1-2 lbs a week, so you are doing great!! Men can be so frustrating, they lose weight by changing from 10 to 8 cookies a day. LOL You will also have plateaus, I used to figure "if I'm doing what I'm supposed to, ie: eating the correct food, the correct amount of food and exercising, I'm doing what I can do and it will come off. Don't you hate that something/anything can change our moods and we seem to turn to comfort food? I still have those days!! Continued good luck!!

Why does he think the magic number is 10 a month?  Tell him that there's no set amount.  1-2 pounds is fantastic!  I would be telling him that he can support you by going for a walk with you etc.  Tell him how you felt when he was "upset" by losing 8 pounds. 

This journey takes lots of patience.  The scale doesn't tell the whole story. Increased health, better lab results, more physical strength etc is a big part of this journey.

Kristi

I am losing a steady 2 lbs/week and my DH criticises everything I put in my mouth.

You are doing great. Our DHs need a smack.

Cat.

Ahhh, don't they just have a gift of knowing EXACTLY what to say.. 

Alas, the exact reason that my I decided to keep my wls a secret.  Only my husband, parents and one friend in another state know about it.  I just didn't want anyone's input, judgement, comments and unwanted advice.  The battle that goes on in your head and your body is hard enough without the added pressure of external criticism.

Maybe you can share this thread with your DH to help him understand how much of an impact his remarks and opinion have on you.  Educate, educate, educate him on what is expected with the band and how he can help to encourage you in your journey.

Be encouraged, Sis, and keep pressing forward.

Thank you all for the support!! Everyone is right my dear hubby needs to stop being the couch coach and be more active in this journey with me.....maybe he will even lose a few lbs in his spare tires

Feed him your food for a week, have him log it in to a website like you do, make him drink 64 oz water per day and focus on protein...I guarantee he will be much more empathetic once he realizes how little you are eating!