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I am 4 years out and have gained 30 of the 75 lbs. i lost. Can someone just give me the words I need to hear to get me back on track?

Hi, I can relate!  I was a member here on ObesityHelp about six, seven years ago and I loved it.  I needed you guys then and I need you now.  I had RNY surgery 12/17/04 and lost 130 pounds, no complications.  It saved my life.  I did everything I needed to do for a year before the surgery and for quite awhile after the surgery.  I can still only eat small amounts at one time but instead of eating three small meals and two snacks like I know I should do and writing it all down, I got into the bad habit of "grazing" all day, just a little bit here and little bit there and all those little bits made me lazy and not accountable about eating sugars and bad carbohydrates.  I have regained 55 pounds and I hate it.  I have thought about trying several diets, you knowk, looking for that quick fix - been there, done that, way too many times.  I need a lifestyle change and accountability with someone else who knows where I have been and has been there to.  Today is my first day back on ObesityHelp.com and the format here has really changed a lot so bear with me as I learn my way around here.  Let's walk this together, friend, we did it before, let's get back on track.  I am necmurphy and I look forward to getting to know you!

We can do it together!

 Motivating yourself can surely be a hard thing to do.  I know that and many others have the same issue, so you hare not alone.  It is never going to be easy, but we all knew that when we choose to get the band. 

I know that to get my mind back on track, I force myself to get up and get out on a long walk, a trip to the gym  or someting to just get out of the house and out my sedate routine.  It seems that once I get my body moving then eating the way I know I should seems a little easier. 

A couple of quick motiviation tools that I use are trying on outfit that is a little tight, stepping of the scale each morning to get my head in the same for day, and looking at my tattoo that celebrates the day I was approved for surgery.

My biggest motivations come from looking at picture of my grandkids becuase I want to be here for them,  and finally remembering my mom because she left this world too soon due to complications that  were indirectly related to her being mobidly obese.  I don't want to do that to my kids.   

I hope that some of these things can help. Know you are not alone and you are soooo worth it!  Remember why you made the decision to have surgery in the first place.  It is now easy every day but to be here for many tomorrows to come, we need use this gift and keep on going one step at a time.  Every step may not be forward, but at least we are on the walk. 

Thank you so much. You're right. I need to remember why I had the surgery and how far I have come. I need to get my focas and just like you I have a grandchild who I wanted to be here for and for more to come!
Thank you for being worth it and taking time out to help me!

Jones

Try to remember the "Basics of Bandster Eating"

1.  no liquid calories (except maybe low-fat milk)
2.  no drinking while you eat (or for 30 - 60 minutes afterwards)
3.  protein (3 - 4 ounces of lean solid food) first
4.  veggies second
5.  a litle starch/carby food if you have room and no problem tolerating it

my own rule -- "bite it, write it" for a few days to see where I am off track.
I write down the food I eat, and the time of day I eat it --- and take a good hard look at it

Usually, when I am up a few pounds, it is because I have started to eat outside my meal times -- and I have gotten lazy with my beverages

I was in the same boat in February. I got Jean McMillian's Bandwagon book and it helped me. (I don't got no money from suggesting the book- just the warm fuzzies of helping someone else). K

Thank you for the book. I will check it out. I appreciate yo utaking the time to help me and others with this information.

How are your portion sizes?  Are you hungry between meals?  Is it possible that you need an adjustment?  If so, then make an appointment with your doctor's office ASAP! 

This is the best part about the Band... we can get back on track, anytime we need to!  You can do this! 

Thank you so much for taking the time to help me!
You're awesome!