TO ALL OF YOU THAT ARE BETTER THAN ANYBODY ELSE

I guess I missed all the drama this past week while away on a mini vacation.   Since this is a public forum you'll have to take the good along with the bad.  I have found there to be much more good than bad.  Have your friend try again.

When I first found this forum, it was so informative for me since I was just contemplating getting the lap-band, but didn't have a clue as to what to expect.  But once I researched this website for months, I was addicted to it.  I had to return every day to get my "daily fix" from all the information I was getting from all the WLS people.  I was impressed with everyone's posts and replies, and the knowledge they had about WLS... UNTIL all of this hoopla started.  It took away the excitement from the forum when all you were seeing was the negative comments and bashing that was going on.

Please, please, please....there is way too much hatred in this world now, we don't need it on these board, too.  Basically, the majority of the posters are good people who will do everything they can to inform or help out the newbies.  Can't we all just get along? 

Susie

WOW! I'm sorry this has happened, and that your friends happened to pop in on a bad day. As the other gals said, and as you know, it's a great place. But nothing in life is perfect, we are all human and have our days. I too was sad to see the nasty posts recently, and it' my choice to pray for those ppl that think it's neccessary to bash. They have issues that none of know about, and they have to work thru them. We are all working thru lots of issued with the weight loss changing our lifes. it ain't easy. but it's also uncalled for to be rude as we have seen lately. But ya know? These things come and they go, and ultimately we are left with the good. and you are right, there is no need for name calling.  I pray that your friends will consider cking out the board again, and see that there really are some wonderful ppl here. Gods Blessings on you and yours.

I have to admit, I said some things on that thread that I'm not proud of. Not that I didn't mean them or didn't feel that way, but that was not the appropriate time to say it. I'm not proud of the way I came across. I'm woman enough to own up to that. How I feel about that person doesn't take away from the fact that she has been a good support to some people on here. It was small minded of me to try to take that away from them. Everyone has a good side, including the people that you're angry with now. They may have done things you don't agree with, but don't let that undermine the fact that those very people have been an invaluable support to many others on this journey.

I hope you re-consider coming here. We're not bad people, we're just people who were not necessarily showing the best sides of ourselves that day.

Edited to add: Ok, maybe we're not thinking about the same post. Was this something that happend to you personally or are you upset by the way another member was treated?

I hope whatever is bothering you gets resolved soon.  I don't understand your post other than you have a lot of anger in you because of the way you were treated.  Sometimes we get caught up in what other people post.  That is unfortunately happened to me.  After my reaction, that I am not too proud of when I think of it, I know the poster is a user and a manipulator.  I came to the conclusion this morning that for several of the posters on this sight, it is a big thrill for them to "stir the pot" so to say.  One poster in particular is always being "helpful" by reminding newbies the "problems" with the band.  I came to the realization that a few people who have had problems with the band and other WLS have brought it on themselves.  The psych test wasn't thorough enough for them, and they should not have had any weight loss surgery.  WLS is not the answer to their disturbing abnormal mental state about food and life in general.  They have deep mental issues and are going to make sure they try to put doubt and fear and uncertainty into our minds.  And  some people are just plain mean and crule.  We have no control over this, only over our own feelings.  I hope the rest of the day is better for you.

HAHAHA  A little passive aggressive today?

Be honest, you don't want newbies knowing everything that can happen with the band.  You are first to jump up and say what can happen with other procedures but you want people to keep their mouths shut about the band.  Not gonna happen.

See, I came to a different conclusion than you this morning.  I realized that some people aren't prepared to deal with truth and honesty so they write posts about how everyone ELSE is mentally ill.

Get over yourself.

Cheers.

Yep, that probably wasn't a good day to wander onto this board.  I feel bad for your friend, and I feel bad for any other newbie who came across it.  Anyone who knows this board, understands that 98% of the time it's a positive experience.

I finally have used the block option offered, never thought I'd need to, but obviously I do!!

Here's my question though, when you block someone, do they know you've blocked them?

It was a definite low point on the board for me, and I'm sorry that's that what your friend saw.  It upset me quite a bit, too.  I couldn't believe how mean-spirited many of the posts were!  As the thread went on, people got more and more comfortable and started saying stuff like, "Yeah, and I never liked her, either" and then told a story about why.  

I also didn't enjoy being insulted for saying that I didn't like the thread.  

For now, I'll just take what works for me and leave the rest -- like others have said.

Cindy 

Good Gawd.... it is only a frickin message board... if your friend is so thin skinned why did she even bother to read the post ? something must have kept her interest . We are all differnt . Who has the right to say what is right or wrong ? Even though I don't agree with the bashing it is a public forum . I know from experience some of the information THAT lady gave out did not coinside with what my Doc said .  Newbies do need to know to stick with what their DR. is telling them . That is what they are paying them for . ~ Cindy

I hope you enjoyed your own private ([public) b***fest, and with your vast 5 months of board experience I am quite certain you are well informed enough to tell people exactly how to behave and what to say and who to say it to (IN A VERY LOUD VOICE I MIGHT ADD).

Honestly, it's awfully rude to do the internet equivalent of YELLING about how people are BEHAVING.  It's awfully narrow minded to categorize and entire board from one post, which is what you seem to be doing.

Whether you mean to be or not, you are as offensive to me as the trash post was to you.