Good Morning everybody! The board sure has been slow lately (hint, hint).......What's everybody doing?? I did the protein "feast" for 10 days......got on the scale this morning and STILL weigh 145 I'm TRYING to chalk it up to that time of the month.....but on a positive note, I ALMOST got a size 8 dress zipped this morning (if Pam had been home to force it, it would have zipped) I'm not letting it get me too down, as I am still incredible happy with my results thus far......I just REALLY want to see 125 on the scale at least once ..... I'm going to give it a couple of days and keep on keeping on. I STILL haven't started exercising and I know that would help, so maybe I will get motivated to ride my bike or swim or have marathon sex or SOMETHING to burn some calories. Love you all Kim

Ignore the hell out of him. Don't even says hello if he says it first. It will drive him crazy after awhile and then you two can call a truce. Don't be obvious about it though, just simply go about your business. If he asks if you heard him, politely say I am sorry, I was busy with other things and I did not hear you. Continue this for awhile, if it bothers him, he will come to you, if he never comes to you, continue to ignore the hell out of him because he is obviously an ass. I have done this with several people over the years, and it works like a charm everytime! Gail

I agree with the others. I do this with my mother ALL THE TIME. It doesn't matter what I say I am going to do, she will start in on why I simply CANNOT do that. And I repeat, every single time: "I did not call to ask your permission. I just wanted to let you know what I was going to be doing." So tell him, you are not asking his permission. This is what you are doing. Unless he has severe memory problems, he knows that you have asked for his assistance and he hasn't given it. Marriage doesn't mean being siamese twins. It doesn't mean getting a new father. You do not have to ask his permission to do something. If you were going out and purchasing a new house with a mortgage that was $1000 a month more than you were currently paying and he was going to be responsible for paying half of it, yes, you would need to discuss it, but this is something you want to do, something you've dreamed of doing and being married doesn't mean giving up your dreams. I say just tell him and if he has a problem with it, tell him "I am a gun-wielding baby and this is what I am going to do. If you have a problem with it, you can speak to my attorney...." I love the new name, but I cringe at the word "baby." I don't like it when men call me that. I think it's demeaning, but if you like it, go for it! I do love the "gun-wielding" part! You could try teasing with him too. Say something like, "you just don't want me to be so tough that I can kick your a$$, is that it?" or "Don't you wanna be able to tell the guys not to mess with you because your wife can beat them up?" I used to be engaged to a guy in the Army in the military police. He used to tell his buddies that. I was taller than he was and he'd always say, "Don't mess with me. My fiance can kick your a$$." The best of luck to you! You can do it! Love, Joni

Hey G! I'm SO proud of you for not only going after your dream but for being proactive in getting prepared to give it all you've got! Since your DH has basically refused to help you, I would probably put it out on the table like this, "So & So is going to work with me for the next month to help me build my strength for taking the test next month". That way, you are telling him what you are doing but not really asking permission, ya know? Ultimately, would it change your mind if he said , "no, I don't want you to do that."? I mean, this is YOUR DREAM, YOUR CAREER, YOUR FUTURE.....YOU are in charge of making it happen. You go girl I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! Hugs, Kim oh yeah, I LOVE GUN-WIELDING BABY

That made me laugh out loud too! Sums up my life here lately. I seem to be surrounded by 'slinkys' lately. Hugs, Kim