I hear and read so much about the affects of WLS on the spouses of the patients and am just curious to know what all of you think about this. Has your spouse/ Partner/ SO become jealous as you've lost weight? Have you noticed a difference in how they treat you (better or worse)? What do you think the long term affects on your relationship will be? Are you more sexual w/ your spouse/SO? Are you tempted to cheat? Do you think THEY are tempted to cheat? What do you do or plan to do to keep the relationship healthy? Do you think they prefer you heavy or thinner? As for me, I DO think my SO is more jealous since I've lost weight. When other people make comments about me to my SO, she is extremely proud and is constantly complimenting me - so I guess she treats me better (although she never treated me badly). Long term, I think me being healthy will definately HELP our relationship to be stronger because I feel better about me. I am definately more sexual but only have eyes for my SO. At times I've wondered if she would cheat, but in my heart I know she would not (if she has plans to live to a ripe old age ) Even though Pam constantly compliments me, I honestly think she preferred me heavy. She fell in love with me at my biggest and sometimes now, I think she sees me as a different person.

Hey does anybody know Gail.....I think her name is something like BEACHGIRLBAMA???? I read on the sex board a while back that she was in the hospital but never heard anything else about her. I've always admired her profile and met her when she was in the Fashion show in Bham in November. She used to post on the bama board some and then got away from there and I would see her occasionally on the sex board. Does anybody know anything??

Thanks for letting us know about Staci! I hope she is feeling better soon! Hugs, Kim

Hey Elspeth! I don't really know about blood clots BUT in my experience, I found that I will have joint pain as my weight loss causes my body mass to 'redistribute' to areas where it is supposed to be. Does that make any sense? Dr. Dewitt says it's common that WLS patients complain about "new Pain" in areas that they didn't hurt before surgery. Maybe a knee brace will help?? Kim

Thanks for letting us know, I went to work with her on my mind today and I do pray she will recover quickly. Love, Elspeth!