Been out of pocket...father in law is very ill

Hey yall, Sorry I haven't posted...I worked over the weekend (of course), Sunday when I woke up my husband was really concerned about his dad. His dad broke his ankle on his bad leg a few weeks ago when he fell. Due to his heart condition and overall general health he was not a candidate for surgery. Well they casted it to let it set and heal. To make a long story short his ankle swelled inside the cast and cut off the circulation to his foot. My husband said his toes were black. I called them immediately(since I had not seen the foot) and told them to see if they could ease a finger between the cast and the foot...well they couldn't so i pretty much knew that this was trouble....not just dependent edema and discoloration. I told them he needed to go straight to the ER but he refused Sunday. I worked Sunday night so I could not go and actually look at the foot. Well yesterday he started with severe pain in his leg so he went to the ER. My husband and I were there till after midnight. They cut the cast and admitted him to the ER. His foot is black, his toes are black and his ankle is black and swollen. They consulted a surgeon and today told us that they will have to amputate. He is on blood thinners so I'm not sure what day. I missed the surgeon today but I hope to catch his to get the full scoop tomorrow. My mother in law is in denial and wanting to blame everyone for this happening. I feel really low and my husband is very down. Please keep us in your thoughts as our family goes through this very difficult time. Oh....Dr. Sherer(yes the Dr. Sherer that does RNY gastric bypass) is going to do my father in laws surgery. Thanks in advance for all the thoughts and care, Beth

Man, what a mess! Dealing with elderly parents is so stressful, especially when they won't do what you suggest. I am sending all good thoughts your way. It's gonna be a rough road for all involved. I am so sorry this happened and even sorrier that he didn't go to the ER immediately when you told him to. I love you, Joni

ohhhhhh Beth! Sounds like you have your hands full sweetie. I was thinking about you earlier today when I was driving into B'ham to go sign my relase forms for UABW. Ive interviewed and have a good chance at the job. Just waiting on clearance and confirmation then I can go put in my notice So sorry this has happened to your father in law. It is no one fault as you well know. You cant force anyone to do anything they dont want to do. I will keep you all in my prayers. It is going to be a rough ride, for sure and I am sure he will do well. I do remember it wasnt that long ago, he had his heart surgery. You guys have had a rough year, bless your hearts. If you need an ear or a shoulder or anything, Im just a email away. Please take care and let us know how he is doing, when you have a minute. Love, Sandy

Hey Beth You are on my mind Sweetie. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you. I'm emailing you my phone #'s if you want to talk. I went through amputation with my Dad, so I have a little insight. Keeping you in my thoughts :hug: kim