Post from the Florida Board

I thought this post was interesting. If you don't have time to read it all, read the first post, then scroll down and read my response to her. I truly think the more we educate people, the better off we'll be....especially someone like this drunk idiot who approached them.... I told him to F**K OFF! Original Post by Sarah Margaret at 10:34 PM EST on 06/28/2005 Miami, FL - RNY (04/07/2003) I apologize in advance for the language I hope the * will keep this post up. A friend and I went to a steak house for dinner tonight. She and I are both around 340. I am post-op -180lbs...she is considering surgery. We were almost finished with our meals when this drunk guy approached our table and said... "Excuse me ladies, you're probably going to tell me to f**k off, but I work in the health care field (he had a polo shirt on from a local hospital, but could be a janitor for all I know), and everyday I see what obesity does to people, so you two, lose some weight." (this part was pretty loud) I instantly replied with..."Thank you very much, but I am losing weight and have lost 180lbs, so I will tell you to go f**k off." He said, "Well you look like you weigh 400lbs!"...as he walked away, so I yelled to him, "well you know too much alcohol will kill you too!" Then the people at the bar asked us what he said and we told him, and they were appauld, the waitress came over to see what was going on and was alo appauld that he said that. He is a regular, and they said they would say something to him tomorrow. I said I'd like to buy him a drink for tomorrow so his liver can go throuhg scerosis a little faster. Then some other patrons came over and said they heard my alcohol comment and guessed what the guy had said and couldn't believe he would be so rude. They said if we were men the man never would have approached us. I was just glad because I stood up for myself. You know if he was actually sincere and finished the comment with, our hospital has a program...etc. But instead he just said LOSE SOME WEIGHT. I just laughed afterwards and my friend was stunned silent. In the end the manager gave us our dinner free (slightly ironic), and apologized again. We told her it wasn't her fault, she had no control over him. What an interesting evening...needless to say we didn't get dessert. ~Sarah RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Rhonda Day at 10:55 PM EST on 06/28/2005 Winter Park, FL - RNY (01/19/2005) Sarah, I'm sorry you had to be subjected to a drunken idiot but BRAVO for standing up for yourself! Rhonda RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Beverly Savage at 11:25 PM EST on 06/28/2005 Winter Haven, FL You go girl im glad you told the jerk off ...tell him im overweight but you are ugly and can't change that and i can lose weight...Most men want Barbie doll wemon its all an image thing...don't let him get to you ,i can see most of the people in the restaurant took up for you ...people can be so cruel just dont let it get to you...you are doing great on your weight loss hon so dont let ignorant people like him get to you ...im haveing the weight surgery on Aug 17th and i can definatly relate to how you were treated...just hang in there girl ...love Bev RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Laurie I at 11:26 PM EST on 06/28/2005 Port Charlotte, FL Sarah, So sorry you had this appalling experience. At least you are changing your life. He will always be a clod! RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from WildCat Lady at 12:13 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Jacksonville, FL - RNY (03/14/2005) Girl I have SO been in that spot before...Long story short, I was in Daytona with my family. I was at our hotel bar getting a drink and waiting for my sis and this drunk guy next to me said you know you would be so hot if you weren't so fat! You must eat a ton! I was floored that someone could be THAT rude! The bartender made him buy me a drink and then kicked him out LOL! YOU GO GIRL! I'm glad you told him off Hugs Kim RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Lois Hanly at 9:51 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Jacksonville, FL - RNY (06/21/2004) Kim, Your picture looks wonderful!!!! Look at you girl!!!!! You keepup the GREAT work and I'll see you at your first post-op meeting on July 16th!! Lois Jacksonville, Florida RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Loosing And Loving It at 12:19 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Jacksonville, FL - RNY (12/17/2004) Sarah, What a complete jerk. Come people are complete moron's!!!!! And i'm sure the butthead left driving as well. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself! You have accomplished so much and been such an inspiration to all of us!! By the way, I had a blast at downtown disney! Can't wait to meet up again! Angie RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Sarah Margaret at 4:13 PM EST on 06/29/2005 Miami, FL - RNY (04/07/2003) New Pic! New Pic! New Pic! RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Lauralyn Bellamy at 1:25 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Roswell, GA - RNY (02/13/2003) Hi Sarah: Your gutsy message prompted me to visit your profile. Glad you spoke up for yourself! According to the info on your profile & the website link on it, you're 5'3" and 320 lbs. That's a challenging road you're on, pilgrim, but look how far you've come! It is tricky to avoid self-sabotage and yo-yo back up to a more familiar weight and I'm happy for you that you seem determined to break that pattern. At this point out from surgery, the psychological/spiritual/emotional strategies become crucial to permanent transformation to a healthy, happy, vital life. For those of us who have lifelong memories of being fat, it may seem impossible to imagine an alternative "life script." But IMAGINE we must if we're to enjoy longterm success. Give yourself the gift of daily daydreams of yourself at YOUR goal weight/image doing all the fun, fulfilling & successful activities/ having the relationships/ living the life you will be creating when your body no longer has to carry around that extra weight. As Wayne Dyer and others have said, "I'll SEE it when I BELIEVE it!" Continue to be the hero who saves your life. Lovingly, Lauralyn RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Jo-Ell D. at 7:34 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Deltona, FL - RNY (04/06/2005) Good for you for sticking up for yourself! I know how it feels when I don't and wish I had.. Way2go grlfriend! RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Phyliss Myers at 8:07 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Miramar, FL - Other (12/14/1999) You go girl! And you deserved that meal for free. If he was drunk, they were sereving him way to much booze. If he was a healthcare provider, he should know drinking is just as dangerous for your body as being overweight. Keep up the great work. Phyliss RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Alexa G. at 8:16 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Weston, FL - RNY (01/17/2005) im so sorry this happend... BUT YOU GO GIRL!!!!! RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Lois Hanly at 9:50 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Jacksonville, FL - RNY (06/21/2004) Sarah, I read the Florida boards all the time and I know how far you have come girlie!!!! You hang in there!!! You are beautiful and don't let jerks like this guy rain on your parade!!! Have a wonderful day! Lois RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Tami Lavoie at 11:29 AM EST on 06/29/2005 Winter Park, FL - RNY (05/25/2005) I'm sorry Sarah for that rude man! I know it hurt both of you inside, it always does when people are so careless, its like a kick in the gut. hugs. I'm glad you said something back though, but it probably won't matter to him, jerks are jerks and they don't care who they hurt in the process. You are marvelous, and have lost so much weight, I applaude you! Blessings, Tami RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Vickie J at 7:58 PM EST on 06/29/2005 Tallahassee, FL - RNY (01/25/2005) You tell him!! Way to go!!! Some folks will always be insensitive jerks - drunk or not - but I'm soooo proud of you for standing up for yourself and your friend!! It is so liberating to be able to say "I've lost .... lbs" but even if you weighed double your starting weight he is still an a$$ and always will be! Vickie J. RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Florida Gal at 12:47 AM EST on 06/30/2005 Deltona, FL Sarah you rock !!! Good for you standing up for yourself. RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Vickie K at 1:23 AM EST on 06/30/2005 Panama City, FL I am so glad you stood up for yourself. I cannot believe people can be so rude. I could never go up to anyone and make any comment about them. Just not my nature. You have come along way. And we are all inspired by you. RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Momma Smith at 7:44 AM EST on 06/30/2005 Ft Lauderdale, FL Sarah! That is unreal! I'm so sorry you had to go thru that!!!! Glad you stood up for yourself but its a pity someone as WONDERFUL as you would have to go thru something like that in the first place..... RE: I told him to F**K OFF! Response from Joni JustJoni at 1:44 AM EST on 07/03/2005 Florence, AL If he had on a hospital shirt, he was representing the hospital. I would get his name and write a letter to the hospital, explaining what happened and that he was drunk and loud and using the fact that he worked in the health care field to be abusive to you in a public place that is not affiliated with the hospital. At the very least, they will talk to him about it, and he might think twice before he does that again. The only way we are going to get people to treat us with dignity is if we call them on it. We need to educate THAT particular...ummmm....individual (couldn't think of a noun for him that the moderators wouldn't pull) and the hospital needs to know that he is using his job to bully others. They aren't going to like the fact that he was being drunk and disorderly while he was wearing their uniform and representing their hospital. Especially when many people witnessed it. He had no right to do that. And they were right. If you had been men, he wouldn't have done it. But please, do write that letter to the hospital. They need to know. He needs to be punished and set straight. And a well-written, professionally sounding letter will go a long way in educating people when you send it to the hospital. Good for you in standing up for yourself. We need to do that. I have spent so much of my life being submissive when people insulted me. No longer. NO ONE has a right to say crap like that to me and I am doing whatever I can to educate people about this disease. Hugs, Joni

OMG, how insensitive, rude, crude and totally unacceptable! I applaud them for standing up to this jerk. I am not sure how I would have handled the situation, but Im pretty sure ya'll would be collecting my bail money right about now. Psssssst... have you seen Gisela around? I may have missed her but I havent seen her in awhile, hope all is well with her. Love, Sandy

What an ass! I would have hit him......no doubt about it.