I GOT CHECKED OUT BY THE VET!!
When we were leaving to go out of town, we had to take our 3 dogs to be boarded. Our VET came out when he saw Pam in the waiting room.....now this guy is a good friend of my BIL & SIL and we've been around him socially several times (he's the 'typical' Womanizing 30 year old horny playboy, etc) but I haven't seen him in probably 6 months. He came over and was talking to me (with a waiting room full of people) for like 5 minutes. He made a comment about the daisy that I had painted on my big toe......well, I thought OK, he's just being nice....whatever. Later that night, Pam's sister calls her and says......"Pam, Dr G called today and asked if you have a new girlfriend!!" HE DIDN'T RECOGNIZE ME AND WAS FLIRTING WITH ME AND STUPID ME DIDN'T EVEN KNOW IT!!! 
When we got back and went to pick up the dogs, he did the same thing. This time, I was aware of it and it was sooo funny to me. Now, a week later, I'm kind of pissed about it.....I mean at 270 pounds, he never would have given me the time of day but now, he tells my SIL how "hot" I am??? I am extremely flattered BUT pissed at the same time! When I told Pam how I felt about it, she was like "hello, you were the hottest chick in there. Of course he was flirting with you!" ..... That is so weird to me. I have MAJOR issues with my body image and in NO WAY do I think of myself as HOT....but once again, I got a glimpse of what it is like to feel "normal" .
When we got back and went to pick up the dogs, he did the same thing. This time, I was aware of it and it was sooo funny to me. Now, a week later, I'm kind of pissed about it.....I mean at 270 pounds, he never would have given me the time of day but now, he tells my SIL how "hot" I am??? I am extremely flattered BUT pissed at the same time! When I told Pam how I felt about it, she was like "hello, you were the hottest chick in there. Of course he was flirting with you!" ..... That is so weird to me. I have MAJOR issues with my body image and in NO WAY do I think of myself as HOT....but once again, I got a glimpse of what it is like to feel "normal" . 
That would **** me off too. I remember when I was younger, I lost a lot of weight and a guy who wouldn't give me the time of day when I was heavy was coming on to me when I had lost weight and I basically slammed the door in his face.
My friend Lacey had a similar thing happen to her...I've told this story before, but I don't think you've heard it. They lived in a small town in Tennessee when she was heavy, then they moved somewhere else and she went to Weigh****chers and lost all her excess weight. Then they moved back to the small town they lived in previously and they ran into a friend of her husband's and he didn't recognize her and told her, "You're a lot prettier than that first wife he had." The fool didn't know she was the same wife.
I've been fat for so long I don't know how many people even remember when I was thin. Jacquie may remember...vaguely. (Do you?) I have these nightmares of running into people I know and them saying, "You remind me of this woman I used to know but she was so damned fat."
You don't think of yourself as hot? This is Kim, right? Hello! If I looked like you, I would consider myself sizzling! If I looked like you, that cutie pie waiter would have come home with me on Friday. 
Oh well, it doesn't matter what the vet thinks as long as Pam thinks you're the hottest chick there. It just matters that he takes good care of your babies. 
But still, whether or not, it's nice when someone checks you out.
My family used to always tease me because I had a cousin who always said if I wasn't his cousin, he'd ask me out. You'd have had to know him. He wasn't quite playing with a full deck and always wore these old nasty overalls and always had dried out tobacco juice on his face. But still...anytime I was feeling down and out, my family would say, "Yeah, but Lewis Edward thinks you're pretty." Bless his heart, he passed away about a year ago, so now they don't have anyone to tell me that thinks I'm pretty. Oh well. I hate it when people who think I'm the bomb pass away. There's not that many people who do.
I've forgotten what it feels like to be flirted with. I think I should carry around a fat photo of myself when I get thin and if anyone flirts with me, I will tell them I'm married, but here is a photo of my sister...would they want to go out with her? And if anyone says "Sure, you bet!" I will marry them right on the spot. On the other hand, I never really go anywhere where anyone would flirt with me, so I guess that's part of it too. I don't think any of the ladies in my quilt guild are attracted to me and that's about the only place I go ...other than Wal-Mart and I never get anything but bad experiences when I go to that place. A friend of mine met her husband in Wal-Mart though. He was standing in front of the Vienna Sausage and she said, "Gotta love a man who likes potted meat." Well, whatever works.
Ok, enough of me. I just got home from my parents' house and need to lie down...yeah, it was that bad.
Love ya'll,
Joni
Oh well, it doesn't matter what the vet thinks as long as Pam thinks you're the hottest chick there. It just matters that he takes good care of your babies. But still, whether or not, it's nice when someone checks you out.
My family used to always tease me because I had a cousin who always said if I wasn't his cousin, he'd ask me out. You'd have had to know him. He wasn't quite playing with a full deck and always wore these old nasty overalls and always had dried out tobacco juice on his face. But still...anytime I was feeling down and out, my family would say, "Yeah, but Lewis Edward thinks you're pretty." Bless his heart, he passed away about a year ago, so now they don't have anyone to tell me that thinks I'm pretty. Oh well. I hate it when people who think I'm the bomb pass away. There's not that many people who do.
I've forgotten what it feels like to be flirted with. I think I should carry around a fat photo of myself when I get thin and if anyone flirts with me, I will tell them I'm married, but here is a photo of my sister...would they want to go out with her? And if anyone says "Sure, you bet!" I will marry them right on the spot. On the other hand, I never really go anywhere where anyone would flirt with me, so I guess that's part of it too. I don't think any of the ladies in my quilt guild are attracted to me and that's about the only place I go ...other than Wal-Mart and I never get anything but bad experiences when I go to that place. A friend of mine met her husband in Wal-Mart though. He was standing in front of the Vienna Sausage and she said, "Gotta love a man who likes potted meat." Well, whatever works.
Ok, enough of me. I just got home from my parents' house and need to lie down...yeah, it was that bad.
Love ya'll,
Joni 
Kim,
You really should not be surprised, most men are shallow. Just pat yourself on the back and say to yourself, "You've come a long way, baby," and enjoy the attention. Men miss out on a lot of great women because they are so focused on looks. As for feeling 'normal', you are a lot better than normal. 
As for Joni . . . Yes, Joni, I do remember you slim. I have always thought you were drop-dead-gorgeous. I hurt with you now because I know you are hurting mentally and physically and also I do not want anything to happen to you. You are still beautiful, funny, talented and a great friend to have. However, you have always sold yourself short. Even when guys were drooling over you, you did not realize how pretty you were.
Jacquie
As for Joni . . . Yes, Joni, I do remember you slim. I have always thought you were drop-dead-gorgeous. I hurt with you now because I know you are hurting mentally and physically and also I do not want anything to happen to you. You are still beautiful, funny, talented and a great friend to have. However, you have always sold yourself short. Even when guys were drooling over you, you did not realize how pretty you were.
Jacquie 
Doesnt that just **** you off! You are one hot tamale, but I bet you were one even at 270 pounds too. Men are so stupid they do not see the real beauty in women unless you are a size 6, even then they dont see the REAL YOU, just the physcial aspect of YOU. I have never had a problem getting men's attention, even being large. When I was pregnant with my son (25 yrs ago), I had a jerk ( old BF) ask me out. Mind you I was also happily married at that time. I called him a deranged pervert and have never spoken to him since. I was with him before I met my husband, he didnt want commitment so it was his loss. Ive never been "normal" so I probably wont know if I ever get to "normal"...LOL
Love Ya!
Sandy
Don't let it **** you off Kim! Enjoy it! Look, people are people! (Don't forget where you came from of course, but don't carry it around on your shoulder.) Healing is a very big part of this surgery as well! I still have problems sometimes but I actually think I look good so if someone says I am hot, I say thank you! Try it!
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