Are You high maintenance??

Ok ya'll, I'm taking a break from laundry....I had an interesting conversation with my SO the other day and it's kind of stayed with me and I need insight. In this conversation, it came out that I am considered "high maintenance" by my SO. Digging for exactly what that means, I was told that it's not neccesarrily a bad thing but that I have certain EXPECTATIONS that I require to be met in order for me to be happy in my marriage. Some of those expectations include: a certain level of admiration (which I'm happy to say I get daily), freedom to shop and spend "our" money however I see fit (now don't get me wrong, I'm not selfish. I make sure the bills are paid and I buy for EVERYBODY, the house, etc), freedom to take a weekend break by myself every once in a while (I usually go gambling by myself about once a year), Sex at least three times a week (enough said). Ok....these are a few of the things that were brought up, but my thought to this is how the heck does any of this make me HIGH MAINTENANCE?? It's not like I expect diamonds every holiday or occassion (although they are nice). I get my nails done every two weeks, but I don't get facials, color my hair or even get it cut for that matter. I recently HAVE bought NEW CLOTHES for myself, but prior to these purchases, I've been buying my transition clothes at thrift stores and consignment shops. For two years now, I've thought that I had these rights and freedoms because those were basic courtesies that everyone should have.....am I wrong? I could go on an on but wont bore you with all the details. Ok, so what do you all think? AND, are YOU high maintenance?

You do not sound high maintenace to me of course my perception of a high maintenance woman are those that are portrayed on those reality shows like the "Gastineau Girls" or "Sheer Dallas". Paris Hilton is high maineteance. If the things you listed make you high maintenance then we all are high maintenance too. I get my nails done every 2 weeks too, color my own hair, and thinking of not cutting it for awhile. I do not shop for clothes. I hate shopping actually, they might change when I loose a significant amount of weight but for now I avoid the malls and clothing stores. I tend to be more sentimental than materialistic however I would not turn down jewlery, flowers or tokens of affection, if they were offered to me. I do not go out to eat, only order out on weekends with the girls at work and that may stop soon since I am limited as to what I can actually have at this point. I do not go out, as I currently have no life besides work and grandchildren unless it is the occasional movie with the granbabies (which I will be doing next weekend with them ). Nope, I am FAR grom being a high maintenance woman but that might change too as the months go by.. Hugs, Sandy

I have a tendency to think partners in Alabama think anyone who isn't a non-English-speaking oriental woman who sits by his/her side smiling and nodding her head every time something is said, who provides sex, food, housecleaning, laundry services, all other services, selflessly with no thought or question of herself, who dresses like a porn star at night (at no cost to the partner, of course,) well, anything other than that is considered high maintenance. I never buy anything for myself other than books and fabric, the only clothes I have bought in the past 5 years were at the B'ham yard sale at which I spent $88. I personally do not consider $88 for 5 years as "high maintenance." I do remember being called "high maintenance" in a degrading manner many years ago because I had to have a root canal. "High Maintenance," in NORMAL terms, is someone who has to be taken out to fancy restaurants, spends a fortune on clothes, has their nails and pedicure done often, has to have a fancy car, jewelry, etc. But men in Alabama...they consider anything that requires money, even if it's not their money, which it usually is NOT, as high maintenance. Hell, they would probably consider the family dog as high maintenance since it eats. Oh don't even get me started on Alabama men. Does your partner wear clothes, drive a car, eat food, get presents on birthdays and Christmases...and I'm assuming participates in the sex that you require? Then your SO is high maintenance if you are going by the same qualifications. That would have made me FURIOUS. My nephew says his wife is high maintenace, but considering she is always wearing something new every single time I see her, including shoes and jewelry to go with all the new outfits and her hair and makeup are always perfect, not to mention that she traded the fancy SUV in on a 2005 Lincoln...now I would consider THAT high maintenance. But my nephew is high maintenance himself. I've never seen him in anything but Tommy Hilfiger or Nike and he drives a Mustang Convertible and they live in a very expensive, high maintenance house. And he plays golf, which is a very expensive....sport, or whatever it is. And they are jetting to Hawaii as we speak for a vacation, so I would consider them high maintenance. Me, I have lived in poverty, driven an old rattle trap car, dressed myself at yard sales, and all my furniture is hand me downs that someone else was going to throw away. I have never known what it was like to HAVE ANYTHING. The closest I ever came was one week when I rented a Pontiac Grand Am, bright red, snazzy. But the only reason I rented it was because I didn't trust my car to get me up here to visit my parents. All my vacations have been spent coming to Alabama to visit my parents or, when I was in college, I took all my vacations during the week of finals so I could study. I took ONE vacation in 1996 and was sick the whole time. So if anyone ever says I am high maintenance, I think that would be legal grounds for murder. I still can't believe that guy said I was high maintenance because I had to have a root canal. And, I might add, I came home with pain pills, which disappeared because the same man, "had a headache and needed them." I was also supporting his ass at the time while he sat at home and played computer games and did nothing else. Now that ******* was high maintenance. I think SO's respect a woman more if she's high maintenance. I swear, if I ever get in another relationship, I will NEVER do without things I need to buy them little trinkets...or big trinkets...because they want to use me. I will probably never date again...unless I get out of Alabama. I refuse to be asked out to dinner, only to get there and find out that he's left his wallet at home. Oh, don't even get me started. But I have never heard a man mention that a woman was high maintenance without it being in an insulting manner. I wasn't always the brilliant, intelligent woman you all know and love. I have been one stupid, ignorant doormat in my day. It ain't gonna happen again, by god. Mark my words. Love, Joni

Girlfriend, I am soooooooooooo very high maintenance!!! And I LOVE it. Skinny D