CAN'T STOP EATING!!!

 Soooo... I have really been struggling this past week or so... I CAN'T STOP EATING!!!  I am about a year and 10 months out from surgery... lost about 190 lbs... but I just gained about five back... In the past six months or so, I've only lost about 10 lbs, and lately I can't stop eating. I've been eating A LOT more than anyone who had gastric bypass should... I am so afraid to gain the weight back... A friend of mine, had the surgery about six years ago, and is back over 300 lbs, and I am terrified. I feel disgusted with myself....and even as I'm typing this I'm debating going to the store to get a back of chips, because "I'll start doing better tomorrow" (Old, self-defeating thought).  

I've been really depressed lately, really struggling with the excess skin issue... and that may have something to do with it, just got out of a... bad situation I guess with a man, which is depressing, and I know I need to get better with my fluids, which may be part of it, but I've been eating wayyyyy too much and am fearful I stretched out my pouch... 

Ohhh had to vent I guess...........

it's hard once u start snacking i'm in the same boat as u I can't stop either gained 7 pounds since July 17th that is crazy I'm praying for the good Lord to help me outta this state before its too late good luck

Hi my name is lucy, I understand where you coming from I am depressed to because of the skin problem, I feel that with this surgery it should be included to help you with the skin problem.  I am glad that i lost the weight but no happy of how my body looks and if you are married that makes it even worse for a women. I also sometimes tend to eat because of being depressed, You are not alone there are many others that feel the same way to,  I hope that you can talk to you pshy. to help you .  Well if you want to talk you can write me anytime ok  good luck on your journey it will get better.

It must be in the air because I have been eating nonstop also.  I have been fortunate because I continue to loose weight each week though at a much slower pace.  This is also bad because I find myself rationalizing eating by my continued weight lose.

Depression and anxiety also play a big part in my eating.  I have the VSG and can tell that I am full/not hungry but the emotional eating has set in. I realize that it is when I am alone or not busy that I eat.   I combat this by  trying to stay active. I try and run one to two 5K's a week and ride at least 8 miles a week.  I also have two son's who play soccer and I coach each of their teams.  My oldest son plays football so I am at his games. 

GOOD LUCK

Hi there,

I am almost one year out from an open RNY and I am having the same issues with overeating and being able to tolerate much more food than I thought I would post-op. Yes, it's very scary. In my case, it's the result of a hugely stressful situation at work that won't be getting better anytime soon.

I took this problem to my WLS support group yesterday and the advice I got was to re-focus on my eating with the help of a nutritionist, create "safe" food places (like, no junk food at home), and understand that this is a lapse that can be temporary and not terribly dangerous... if I put the brakes on NOW. We also discussed wanting things versus needing things, and that helped too.

My first reaction to all this advice was to think about it over a box of gingersnaps... but I am going to try it all. I do NOT want to go back to being the out of control obese overater I was a year ago.  I've come too far to throw it all away now, and so have you. I hope that some of these suggestions will help. Best of luck!!!

Susan

oh man I am in the same boat!! I am 9 months out, havent lost weight for about 4 months and have gained 9 pounds!! I went to counseling before my surgery and asked for help with self-sabotage. She told me to go to al-anon, join a church and find a man online!! I know if I dont deal with whatever is inside me that makes me overeat, I am so very afraid I will gain my weight back. I had lost 88 pounds at one point, everyone still says how great I look, and only I know the bagginess of my skin and the secret eating I've been doing. I thought once I had this surgery and lost weight that I could start hoping again for a relationship to come into my life, and now I find I am just as self conscious as I was bfore I lost weight. Granted I am so very thankful that my health is so much improved, but even in checking into getting my arms done, it is 4000.00 an arm! Really? I have NO HOPE of getting them done. I too, feel disgusted with myself!! I am still the sme old me I always was it seems. Someone PLEASE help me - how do I get out of this funk and get going on my life? I work night shift also, so advice that works for some isnt feasable for me and I am having a hard time figuring out a good schedule.
Where is the nearest support group and when do they meet?

Don't you just love how, for some people, their advice is to find a man/woman?  I have enough issues, both emotional and body image-wise, to deal with, why compound that with a new relationship?  I've always been a grazer and it's SO hard to break that!  I'm 10 months out and my weight loss has been in steps- I lost 5 lbs then nothing for 2-3 weeks then a loss then nothing then a loss.  But I can't stop grazing!  Total so far is 75 lbs. It gets discouraging when I see people in my support group who've lost much more is much less time.  I know it's because of my grazing but I can't seem to stop. I'm so happy with my weight loss and all that I can do now.  And don't you just hate when people poo-poo WLS and pretty much say you took the "easy" way out?  UGH! 

I also find that I'm much quicker to anger and much less tolerant. 

I hate the thoughts of seeing us struggle, but at least we all know we are not alone.

I have the same thoughts of being upset that other people have lost more than I have.  How slow the loss is now -- even at a standstill.    I too eat when I'm stressed and depressed.    right now eating very healthily but just not feeling quite "right".  Depression?   I bet.  Always worried about something...... work situation, home life, kids .... it ain't easy but we have each other and we all keep trying.

Good luck to everyone.
Lauren

I had bypass in Feb/10 and lost 110lbs. Well I haven't lost in months. I am now eating way tooo much and am also terrified of gaining it back. I have gained back 6lbs.  I was working midnights for the past year and then 2 months ago I gave up my job to move back home and look after my elderly parents. This has been the hardest thing I have done. I am 46yrs old and it is really hard to move back with your parents after 28 yrs. I have gotten into such a depression and feel like I have given up so much and what do I do to ease the pain.....I eat. Please help me.  I don't know how to stop. It's horrible. I know I should be exercising but I haven't been. I know everything I should be doing but don't. I too am getting in the old habits of saying "ok I screwed up today, so I will keep eating today, and do better tomorrow".  Well tomorrow never comes. 

Cheryl

I am trying to come to grips with the same problem.  Had my RNY in Feb 2010 lost 120 pounds and have gained back 20.  I am seeking help from a professional.  I thought it was more like a food addiction but she tells me I have a compound problem because I have ADD and that is one of the reasons I can't stay on track when I say I am going to. 

You hit the nail on the head when you say you start out thinking today will be different, but by the end of the day, it's not and tomorrow never comes. 

I insisted that I would not EVER be one of those WLS statistics.  Part of the group that gains the weight back, but here I am.  I am so down on myself, I can't stand it. 

There are those who will say...Shut up and just do what you need to do.  Quit making excuses.  This is the conversation that I have with myself EVERY day.  I am out of control.  I really need help with this.  So....I'm back on this forum..  Spilling my guts....pouring my heart out to get some help from somebody that understands and has won this battle.  (hoping).