Also Gaining Weight....Need HELP!!!

I'm 89 years post-op as of July 2.  I'd reached my goal weight last year and was ecstatic.  I had a routine, 5am excercise before work and healthy lunch.  I was doing a very good job.  There have been a lot of ups and downs, physically, mentally and emotionally.  Which is normal in anyone's life. 
Lately I've been feeling stressed, depressed, lonely and unfortunately going back into my habits of using food as a band-aid.  So far this whole week I have not gone to work out at all.  This is not the first time this has occurred.

I don't have a large circle of friends, actually it the very opposite.  I don't have a support circle at all.  I feel like I'm carrying a large load on my own with no escape. 

I am desperately seeking help before I keep going down this road of which I'm afraid there will not be a return.

Hi Nicky40, I had to wonder about being 89 years post op.  LOL.    It sounds like you are feeling pretty low.   I am struggling too.  It is so  hard not to go back to the eating that we used to do.   I haven't worked out either in forever and think about food all the time.  So I can definitely relate.

Let's agree to take one step to make things better.  exercise one time this week.   walk or do something.     Look in the mirror and get a good picture in your head of where you are where you used to be.   Refuse to go back.

It sounds like you are really lonely.  Maybe you could find one thing to do to get you out of the house.  find a support circle, check under bariatrics in the phone book, many drs have support groups.   

Again, I am thinking of the same things.   I am almost in a panic over it.   I weigh every day, and have not gained, but expect the scales to suddenly jump 10 pounds.

Hang in there.    We can do this.     e-mail me any time.

Thank you so much Jane E. actually I had the opportunity this morning to go workout.  I woke up at 3:20 am. I had absolutely no reason not to do my routine of devotion, getting clothes ironed and ready for the day, shower (don't ask why I shower before going to gym, it's my thing) and then to gym.  Everything inside me said go, instead I went downstairs made two sandwiches, got a glass of orange juice and read a book before falling back to sleep.  I woke up a little after 7 and actually stayed in bed until after 7:30, knowing I had to get up, showered and dressed for work.   I don't know why I'm feeling this way but I know one thing I need to get out of this funk  before things get worse.  I know the what I'm supposed to do, it's just I have desire to do them, no drive the way I used to.

Hi Nicky do you mean to say you're eight-nine years post op? Any how, remember you are not alone. There are a lot of us who have fallen down but we don't have to stay down. That's when OH comes in handy!. I've gone through the same rut that you're in I just went back to basics and it's working out for me. Remember we have a tool and the tool still works by starting over. Feel free to read my profile and my blogs I will try and post daily to stay motivated and to help motivate others as well. Cheer up!! There is a light at the end of the weight loss tunnel.
Renee

Hi Renee,

Thank you, that's what I need right now, to know that I'm not alone in this struggle. I wish I had you all physically here to push my behind right into that gym.  Like i said I know what I need to do, it's just a matter of breaking my self out of this rut and getting back into the game.
I need to find my courage and stop hiding out. 

Hi there!

I want you to know that we all have our moments of lapsing into the comfortable "old" way of doing things.  We just have to do as the other writers said and go back to basics.  The exercise and the portion control and watching your intake of fats and sugar, will help to kick start your return to where you need to be.
I was 2 lbs from my dr.s goal at my surgery start (186 lbs was his goal for me)  In the last month I have gained 10 lbs and I'm not sure why.  I don't think I have started eating too much more, but I have been snacking, even healthy snacking can add calories you aren't burning off if you don't exercise.

I know you don't want to reverse all your hard work, none of us have that in mind.  I wish you the best in your fight.  I know you can do it!!!

Hello,

You're right,  I am trying to go back to the basics now.  Yesterday, I started back in the gym.  I know I only missed a week but It really scares me to take more than two days off from working out.  I'm trying to watch what I eat and drink.  Last night I wanted something sweet to drink so bad, but by the Grace of God I stuck to my water and finally drifted off to sleep a little after 11pm. The only bad thingis that I got a little less than 4 hours sleep, because I get up after 3am and didn't sleep very well last night. 

Hi - I understand you completely.  My bypass was 3/19/07.  I went from 290 pounds to 157 pounds and am now at 172 (last time I weighed a couple of weeks ago.)  As you probably know, it was hard in the beginning, but WONDERFUL.  I could hardly eat, but when you are only eating a plateful of food (maybe) in a day - it really didn't matter what you ate - at least so I thought.  Needless to say, I did not form good habits as I should have.  So, after about 10 months I began to be able to eat again - and I started drinking dt mtn dews.  Not only that, but I got a new boss about then (very stressful and now have a new job - much better-but really yucky then) and I also started not sleeping.  I now take ambien cr to sleep - every night. 

In addition, I had a tummy tuck and a breast lift last March - I lost back down to 159, but now it has crept back up and even though I haven't gained more weight than before(about 15 pounds), I feel as though i've gained 50 pounds.  I can tell other people notice too - they just don't want to say anything.  So, there you have it in a nutshell.   I've also fallen off the bandwagon so to speak and haven't done anything about it.

I have started positive affirmations every day - I say "I weigh 139 pounds." I know that this works because it has worked before - not just for weight loss - but other areas of my life too.  You have to be persistent and consistent though - at least for 30 days (that's what I think anyways). 

We have been through too much to let it get away from us now.  We will stay thin!!!!!!!  Good luck!!!