Need to get Back on Track

Hi.  This is my first post to this group.  Where to begin. I am 5/8",had open RNY 9-07 all time high 319, surgery wt. 299 lowest 186 now 195. I never exercised like I should. Now that my mother has passed and I no longer work 12hrs shifts, I don't have any excused.  This Easter was bad. I learned I was able to eat Easter candy w/o getting sick. I can eat a lot more food than my 1 cup limit.  I am too upset/ashamed to return to my doctor. I haven't been on this site for a while, I guess I fell into the trap, I am normal now and am now really realizing I am not.  My support group asked us to make constructive, or was it concrete suggestions on how they can help, other than more psychological info.  I am like thinking. what...isn't that your job as the professionals? I am one of the oldest post surgeries and have quit going for the same reasons.  They have there pre and post support group together. I do have a call out to human resources for guidance with health care/psychological benefits.  Any advise until I get call? Will starting over with smaller amounts of food really help, or am I destined to be a WLS failure?  Thanks

I am sorry you are having a tough time of it...I myself have had to go back to Atkins induction to get things back on track...so far seems to be helping  a great deal. Need to really work on the water intake though. Have you thought about the 5daypouchtest or something. You are not a failure just need to tweak your habits a bit (like most of us).

thanks for the info.  I think I will try the pouch test...when I need to go to the store again.  i eat a lot of kroger's carb buster yogurt.. 80 cal. total fat 1.5 sodium 100 potassium 140mg total carb 4, sugar 3 protein 12. i don't see any downfalls, am i missing something?

I got messed up when my nut said I should be eating solid one cup of food.
Well I pushed myself to do it. Before I did it I was afraid of my pouch and never ventured to try the real food like solid steak or chicken, salads or anything. I was doing 3 shakes a day and 1/2 cup of beans.
I was fine nutritionaly, everything came back clean.
But I forced myself to do the 1cup. I can eat much more than that. . I have to remember  to eat meat first then only 2tablespoons of anything else.
Im afraid now that I am battling with my old habit and not so much my actual hunger.
I also have to remember my old self could have ate much much more than I can ever try to now.
Whole pies, bags of chips, whole chickens! Now I can tolerate normal portions and a heck of alot less than before. So Im not going to be to hard on myself if I feel like iv messed up.
Either way im better off than I was before.