I need help

I had my surgery on 6/22/04. I lost about 120 lbs in all but gained back about 20. I feel like I'm out of control over my weight. I am constantly eating junk. I wake up several times in the middle of the night to eat. I drink wine almost every night. I feel like i'm losing control over my life at times. I would like to find a good detox diet to help me get back on track. Anyone out there able to help me please!!???? Before it's too late. I need to know how to get back on track. Thanks

well first of all you did the biggest step you posted and that is great my surgey was may 2004 i never got to goal and have gained 15 lbs you will find in this group that our gains ranges from 5-80 lbs. i am new to this group myself. but have foungd good people there is even a chat room set up for us but i havent seen any schuduled days . mty first piece of advice start out with baby steps example: drink water/exercise/ throw out the junk / no more wine. start out slow slow slow and you will be back on track in no time i have started back on my protein next week my goal in walking ... good luck you are not alone /we are all here for one other have a good day

I definitely agree with Sheila.... your first (and best!) step is to post your concerns here... that way, you are accountable to someone (other than yourself) for sharing what is going with your feelings and emotions. The "out of control" feelings you mentioned are extremely common, especially in those of us post op 2+ years. We all seem to struggle with that balance between the feelings we had immediately following surgery and the "old" feelings that come creeping back after the initial weight loss. Isn't it funny that we just can't seem to let those old habits go? And we worked so hard!!! How many of us have said, "If I could/would just lose the weight, everything would be perfect?" Yet, we now find ourselves struggling with the same old issues that got us to where we were before surgery. What's up with that? I didn't bargain for that when I signed on for weight loss surgery! I wanted all my food issues to "go away" and despite the fact that I KNEW weight loss surgery was only a tool, I still got peeved when the old issues reared their ugly heads again! Imagine that! There is GOOD news, though!!!!! There are those of us that may have gained weight, but we all feel the same about our weight gain, despite whatever number it might be. We are all aware of what is happening to us and that is the first real step towards working through these issues. Support from those that are struggling with the same problems is what can help each one of us recognize our ability to overcome any obstacle we face. Keep posting your concerns and follow the advice (except when medical advice is needed - then always contact your surgeon!) of your peers.... we can only help ourselves if we are willing to help those that need us, too! Welcome and hugs to you! Kristi

Thank you soo much ladies

Hey Diva, Welcome to the group. I don't know about a detox diet, but we do have the rules posted in one of our other strings in this forum. I think it is under my message post titled Horrible Weight Gain. I do know the nighttime eating will certainly sabatoge your goals. The wine I think you could keep as long as it's only 1 glass a night and you don't snack while you drink it. I have a glass of wine or cup of decaf coffee every night as my relaxer for the day. If I had the nighttime eating problem, I would probably journal my food and ration out a snack for the middle of the night in case I needed it. However, I would try to have a very tough textured pure protein dinner, like chicken breast or steak. That way the food sits in your pouch and really pushes on the walls for the rest of the evening. Then, if I didn't indulge in the pre-planned middle of the night snack, I would reward myself the next morning with something non food. Or maybe put a quarter in a jar every morning that I didn't eat the snack, then use the money at the end of the month for a new lipstick or pair of earrings. I know it's so easy to feel out of control. Don't get discouraged. We are all having the same issues and we want to help each other. Just cut out the foods that you know don't have value for your body. Eat what you need, don't starve yourself. If you honestly need that middle of the night snack, have it. Just pre-plan it so that everything you consume is good fuel for your body. Wishing you the best of luck. Angela

Thank you Angela

Haitian, I can't answer your question, but I have a question for you. I am only 3 weeks pre op and have a mindset before surgery and so far, that I am going to follow the eating/drinking plan and excercise plan and that I don't want to every gain my weight back. Of course I understand I could have some weight gain. However, I don't have it in my mind to be totally out of control in the future. When did this feeling start for you? How long did you follow the diet, drinking, excercise plan after your surgery? Did you have the mindset as I did in the beginning? I wanted 8/9/2006 to be the start of a new life for me; mentally, spiritually and physically. I feel this surgery was a miracle God gave me that is helping me to loose and keep this weight off. I feel that something is happening in your life right now that you are stressed out and not feeling good about yourself so you are not taking the time to be good to yourself. Remember where all this out of control junk food eating and drinking got you in the first place. Don't go back. I pray that you will get the detox diet you need and get back on track. You are worth it. God loves you. Hang in there, girl.

Hi Lavon. Sorry to reply to you so late. My computer at home is down so I have to use the one at work. Well, what the problem with me is that I suffer from depression and it gets intense at times. It seems like these feelings have been worse for the last 6 months therefore my eating has been out of control for me. Right before my surgery and right after I was doing awesome for the first 1year. My diet was great, I exercised on a regularly basis, I was so happy. I don't know what happened but my depression got bad. I don't think I have a good support group besides my husband. I don't go to support group, which I should, but I don't because of lack of time. I am doing better. I've lost a couple of pounds since posting. Thank you so much for your support and kind words. Thank you

Hi there Haitan Diva, Look there's an important thing here ... you can do all the diets and detoxes you want. Remember, my surgeon said this -- we can fix your stomach, but not your head. You need to see a therapist/counselor. I say this with utmost respect and concern. I am POD # 3 and I am going to not only see a nutritionist and exercise physiologist. I will also be seeing a psychologist. Point is -- I am almost 300 lbs for a reason! Yes, I have an unhealthy obsession with food, but there's something in my head that associates with food destructively, when Im in pain, sad, happy, etc. Diva, please get the help you need and the rest might just fall in place~! This forum is an execellent start. Take care. With Love, living2excel

I totally agree with you. I think I do need to seek counseling. I've thought about that for a while now. This is why I cam back to obesity help, for the support. Thank you so much