Rosa, thank you for your kind words......you inspire me!!! I know what you mean about "perros". I'm kinda of stuck in an unwanted relationship. My youngest son's dad (5), and I share a home, bills, and our son. We don't, however, share a bedroom. We are suppose to be friends and we both want to be with Matthew, which we adore. He is a relatively good dad and because I work fulltime and school partime (year round) he is a lot of help with Matt. However he can be the meanest a-hole. he treats my older kids with disrespect and he wishes that they would disapear from our home. My children (20 and 18) are wonderful, respectful, kind, and responsible kids. They are in college fulltime and work partime. They don't help with bills, but I don't want them to, their money is spending money and they don't ask me for anything. Besides my kids are great with chores and help alot with Matthew, The only thing they don't do is cook, so when I'm in school and come home at 10pm "el perro", goes out and buys himself and Matt food or brings food for him and Matt..It's okay my kids have money and a car and they don't starve. He says that he still loves me and he wants us to be a family (him, Matthew and me). I tell him to go to hell because my family is my three kids...... I'm in a sort of a standstill in my life at the moment. My son Jason (18) tells me to find a nice man that appreciates me and takes care of me but I tell him that I am to busy to get anyone involved in my hectic and complicated life. Working fulltime, school 5 nights a week and studying every chance I have, raising a 5 year old, helping my older kids move ahead in their lives and future, my strange living arrangements, and of course working with my new lifestyle (eating and excercising) leaves very little or no time for dating or a relationship. I get lonely and wished dearly that I had a life partner, someone to talk to, someone to take me out but at this time I don't see how it is possible..........I plan on this life for a couple more years, till I'm done with school and "he" moves away.. Rosa, I am very glad for you...I know that you can't wait till january to finally see your friend. Follow your heart and your own advice. About the age thing, well, good for you...you go girl.....afterall you don't want an impotent old man You are ready to start your life so go and have fun with it. You seem to have the right attitude...good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hola Karina. First off, let me welcome you to our site, it is not very active but you will always get a response from one of us. The more of us latinas join, the better it gets. I would also like to congratulate you on your decision, I know that it is not an easy one. You will encounter some obstacles on your journey but stay strong and you will soon be on your way to a happy, healthy, and beautiful future. I had my surgery the last day of March '06, it truly has been the best decision of my life. I started at 250lbs, 5' tall, I am now 206 and starting to look and feel fabulous. I still have about 60lbs. to go for my goal and I know that I will be there one of these days. I excercise regularly and keep to my new ways of life (eating). Yes, I do get cravings and I do one of two things, 1. I ignore it and go about my business, telling myself that I never want to look back 2. I take a small taste ( I can swallow or most times I spit it out). My doctor told me that the heavier you are the faster you lose the weight, so good luck to you...you will surely lose it quite fast. Please do yourself a favor and start excercising, you don't want to have loose and hanging skin. Walk a lot and do weights on your arms, thights, back, and abdomen. I have been excercising and hopefully I won't need any cosmetic surgery, my body is coming together very nice, it looks toned (zero loose skin). Get as much info as possible, this site is wonderful and don't listen to the negativity. People do get jelouse and always want to keep you down........... Karina good luck and please keep us posted...we are here for advice, comfort, or just plain venting Warm regards, carolbear p.s. I am also working towards the R.N. license

Carol anytime you want to vent I am here..we are both the same height 5 feet I am 261 when I started now I am 235 pounds ...never feel because of your weight you are not better then other people I carry myself with alot of pride if people don't like it they could look the other way....I love my big butt annd thick thighs.hahahaha... Sometimes Carol we tend to be very hard on ourselves you are still young follow your heart and dreams..I must tell you I did follow my heart in 1996 with my daughter's padre who I simple loved with all my heart and all this hot latin blood but once a perro always a perro doesn't matter what country u are with them relocated to PuertoRico wanting to start a new life with of course the man I loved I was back here in Massaschusetts 125 days later almost homeless thanx to my son and friends I made it back with full force,it was a lesson for my daughter to learn and even today I am bless by my children el perro got what he deserve because what u do in this earth you pay for it here..at less I don"t cry at night and wonder when I get older if I should of try doing what I did... Your weight is almost 200 pounds be very proud of yourself Carol wonderful things are coming your way..imagine 200 pounds you Go Girl My friend is from Alexandria, Egypt and is a Dr we are getting close to each other he is traveling over here in January for a month and will stay near to me and from there I will see...he is younger by 9 yrs but who cares love those young Papi.. hahahahahaha.. Let things happen Carol life is so fragile Carol I work with hospice and I see so much death .... I will reach for the stars.. I have always been here for my children and especially my son tells me to follow my heart even if it's to the other side of the world wish to spend my last yrs happy I am 57 and my kids son 37 and daughter 23... But I am a sexy Mami.hahahahaha all the time... Keep in touch and keep on smiling.. Hugs Rosa..

Carol thank you so much for your words.. I did get my 1st fill it was pain free my Dr is so gentle and handsome too.hahaha I got 1cc but I do not feel any changes so I am going again on July 10th if God permits. I could see myself feeling so good about me even if before I always did like me.. I am getting to the point I think I will start dating again..have met a man on the net a Dr from Egypt funny he is a gastrointerlogist and I worked 23 yrs for the endoscopy dept funny how life throws u a curve ball your way he is divorce like me and we are getting along really nice we will see how far this takes us.. Tell me how are u doing?? God bless. Rosa...

Sorry I haven't posted in a while I am doing great lost already 26 pounds all together but since surgery lost 21 pounds.... I could feel my clothes lose,rings etc. My question for old timers..I am starting to eat more like at night feeling hungry is that normal??? How do u ladies like this new site???it seems like I am not getting anything from the site or is it people are not writing much lately I am drinking my protein ect the only thing is I hate walking outside going to get a excercise bike Have a wonderful day and rest of the week Rosa.D.