Exercise?  What is that?  Are we suppose to be doing exercise?   Does working 2 jobs and barely finding time to sleep and shower considered exercise?   Guess the flab is just gonna have to "hang around" a little bit longer. 

Sally

Bottom line is that I have way tooooo many problem areas...I cover up the flab as best I can...my excersize is done out of necessity...not to work any muscles or lose problem areas...I do it just because I have to...I don't see plastics in my future and I anticipate living with this unsightly arm flab, stomach flab, and thigh flab for the rest of my life...

Excersize:  30-minutes of either very brisk walking or very fast recumbent biking...goal is to burn enough calories to kill off one meal - period!

Honestly, being shy is something that I "am"...I don't think that I can undo that shyness just because I lost weight...I am trying very hard to be more active in Church....it is not easy for me...but my priest is pushing me and needs my help so that kind of encourages me...but overall...I don't see my shyness going anywhere!

I don't know that one can be trained to see yourself properly, but eventually, I think it just comes.  But, while thinking about this, it occurred to me - does ANYONE see the "real" person they are?  I don't think this is just an obesity issue - I think that most people have a perception of what they look like, and that's what they see - not necessarily what they really are.  For us, it just seems magnified because we've all changed so dramatically. 

I was so shy, and sometimes, I still am...   but it's easier now, just living life.  I have met the love of my life, and through him, many more new friends.  I attend church with him regularly.  My daughter's friends spend more time around the house, so I get to know them better too.  Possibly because my outlook is brighter?  I dunno, but people in general seem more drawn to me. 

I also do Partylite candle parties - I signed up (for the second time) the day before my WLS, and I'm so much more successful this time around.  I tell everyone at the parties that the first time, I did it for the money - this time, I do it for the social outlet.  I love being "invited" to party a time or two every week, and I get to meet new people every time!  I also love the camaraderie of the meetings and helping others find their niche in Partylite.  It's so nice to begin a relationship based on a mutual love of candles - and sometimes, I gain lasting friendships!