Daily Post--8/23/08

How do you train your mind to see the real you and not the MO you still??  Or, CAN you train your mind to do so?  LOL

My mind goes both ways.  Sometimes, I see the skinnier me, and other times I still feel like the fat me.  If I stood next to someone who was wearing the same size pants, I'd think I was bigger.

I agree with V V.  Sometimes I see the real me and sometimes I see the old me.  Maybe that's just my mind learning to see the real me, and someday, I won't see the old me anymore. 

I am having a really hard time with this very thing. I was a 26-28 and just bought work out clothes in a 12 -14, it amazed me!!!!! My logical brain knows I am smaller, but when I try to move thru crowds I still worry about bumping people, and wondering if people are looking at me, because I still feel big.  I am hoping that with time my brain will catch up to the rest of me.
Vivienne

I don't know that one can be trained to see yourself properly, but eventually, I think it just comes.  But, while thinking about this, it occurred to me - does ANYONE see the "real" person they are?  I don't think this is just an obesity issue - I think that most people have a perception of what they look like, and that's what they see - not necessarily what they really are.  For us, it just seems magnified because we've all changed so dramatically. 

I guess the longer time goes by the more I see the thinner me then the MO me.  There are times when someone will say something about how nice I look and it is like I have to look around to see who they are talking to because I can't believe they would say something to me about "looking good".  

Sally

I still struggle with this one on a regular basis.  So, I don't know if you can train your mind or not but it hasn't happened at 17 months out.

I've been struggling with this issue for a while now.  I still see myself as fat.  However, recently I've started to notice that I am thinner.  But I have issues with my body image.  I saw my surgeon last week and the guy is amazing.

He told me to quit comparing Debi now to Debi 20 years ago.  Compare Debi now to Debi from a year ago.  When I do that, I realize I am much smaller and even though I have some skin sagging issues, I look great compared to how I used to look.  I can hide my problem areas and couldn't before.

Like most people here, I see my self thinner at times and fatter at times.  I feel thin until I see a photo of me....then I think I look fat!!!

I don't know if the brain can be trained or not, but I have issues with this.  Sometimes I see a thin me and at other times I still see the MO me.      Jules