Daily Post--5/15/08

How do the changes in your diet since WLS affect your relationship with your spouse/SO? How do they feel about not having certain foods in the house OR do you keep them around because they refuse to give them up? How has it affected the times you go out to dinner or to other activities? How have things changed?

They have made him think more about what he eats and the size of portion he takes. I don't keep them from eating things I CHOOSE not to have anymore. That was my choice to make. When I go out to dinner, I will order what I want or what I can eat, rather, and I get a take home box and take 1/2 of it home with me. I still eat things I used to....just modified.

Hasn't really been much of a challenge. My husband is trying to pare down a little. He's about 20 pounds overweight (I know, let's all cry for the boy.) He's also the nut and chip kind of eater and I've always been a sweet eater. So, keeping the stuff he likes around is not a challenge. My son like vanilla ice cream and I can't stand anything cold (it HURTS!), so having that in the house is no biggie. My son's other favorite is cheezits, and I can't stand those, so again, no problem. I guess I just hit it lucky.

I don't have a spouse or a SO. But I do have a guy at work that I like, and he seems to like me too (I know, sounds so JR High-ish). And he is constantly on my case that I've lost too much weight, getting too skinny, I don't eat enough food (if he sees me eating anything he'll come over and see what it is then complain that it's not "real" food - LOL), that I don't have any quality of life (this one cracks me up) because I don't eat brownies anymore. He is fascinated by how much I've lost and how much I weigh - he really wants to know my current weight and it drives him crazy that I won't tell him. So, I guess this is as close to a relationship I have right now...

Since my hubby is trying to lose weight too, it hasn't bothered him at all that the snacks are few and far between at home. Going out to eat is a bit of a problem sometimes. We have to be careful where we choose to go since Mexican food is limited, Chinese food is limited and tempting, etc. But we usually find one. But then I can see the pain in my hubby's eyes when he sees me eating. My mind (which is hungry and can eat anything) competes with my stomach (which hurts when i eat too fast or eats greasy, fatty foods). My stomach always wins that battle....or loses it, whatever way you want to say it. I get a pain in my stomach and I look like I am suffering ...so when he sees my face grimace and turn green, he feels bad for me. It's a matter of me learning to slow down and order less food and take a bunch home for several meals. I don't have to try to et it all at one sitting. The portion sizes restaurants give us is ridiculous!!!

Basically, my husband and kids go on as they always have..they have their pantry and I have mine. Occasionally my husband will try some of my food items, but for the most part...they are slow to come over to my side of the fence...

There's really not much of a change. We still go out every Friday night for Chinese food and Scorpion Bowls. I just don't drink the Scorpion Bowl, and I eat only what I can from the menu. As far as at home, we eat more chicken, which he doesn't care for, but he never complains. I keep the same foods in the house that I always had. I can't ask him to give up the snacks he likes. He doesn't have the weight problem - I do!

Well I don't have a spouse for it to effect. As far as going out to dinner it hasn't changed anything. I just make good choices and take home leftovers or if my daughter is with me we split a meal. Sure saves on cost. No pop or drinks on a resturant bill reduce the cost significantly. My oldest daughter has been living with me temporarily so if she wants something in the house that I can't eat she goes and buys it herself. The other day she came home with no sugar added ice cream so we could all have some. Guess it really hasn't changed anything in a negative way. Sally

What I have in the house hasn't changed too much other than what I have added for myself. My kids & husband eat the same I eat differently. My husband and I go out less because I don't like to go out anymore as I feel it's a waste of $$.

Well, I dont have a SO, but, I lived with my mom and brother when I first had surgery, they have actually tried to eat healthier. But now that I have moved out, I dont think they try as hard. Right now I am buying for just me at the store, so I dont buy any junk, or bad stuff. As for going out to eat, they eat whatever they want, I get what I want and get a doggy bag. Vivienne