Daily Post--4/24/08
Almost everything has been very positive for me.
My daughter is struggling to keep up with the changes in my attitude, my personality. I am still the same person, but she's having trouble with my new activities and goals for life. I've talked to other family members to be sure that I'm not fooling myself, and they all agree that it's her issue to deal with.
After the WLS, she and I got closer, because there was so much more we could share - Disneyland trips, walks, yoga - but now I think she's resenting my new lifestyle and relationship. We'll get through it - we're very close - but it may take time and effort from both of us.
I can relate to the bone issue,,,especially on the church pew or in the bathtub!
My grown daughter has real issues now that I am smaller than her. We are not nearly as close as we once were. She has distanced herself from me in the last couple of years, and it really makes me sad. My son on the other hand, is so proud of me and tells me often, as does my other daughter.
One of the hardest things for me is the distorted body image thing. I still dont see myself as I really am, and it frustrates my husband so much. He thinks I look great, and brags on me or flashes my picture all the time, but I still am amazed when I see pictures. Some of my friends tell me they cant remember me obese, and that amazes me too.
But in light of all this..Im still soooo thankful I had this surgery! It has changed my life completely!
Blessings
Betsy
I had a problem with my perineal nerve which is the nerve that runs down the outside of your knee. This nerve gets cut off when you cross your legs. I hadn't ever been able to cross my legs so when I could I did it all the time. I began to lose feeling in my calf and then my foot began to "flop" when I walked. Soon, I couldn't walk correctly so I went to my Dr. *****ferred me to a neurologist who did a nerve study. If you have never had a nerve study don't worry you aren't missing out on anything but a lot of PAIN ~ stuck with needles all over my legs and back. 
When the neurologist told me I needed to stop crossing my legs and the feeling would come back I did just that, told everyone I know to remind me not to cross my legs and it worked. Now, when I cross my legs too much and feel the beginning of the tingling I simply stop and it fixes itself. Oh yeah, the nickname for this problem is "skinny leg syndrome"...I've never had to deal with SKINNY anything!!!!
When the neurologist told me I needed to stop crossing my legs and the feeling would come back I did just that, told everyone I know to remind me not to cross my legs and it worked. Now, when I cross my legs too much and feel the beginning of the tingling I simply stop and it fixes itself. Oh yeah, the nickname for this problem is "skinny leg syndrome"...I've never had to deal with SKINNY anything!!!! 
All of the above, LOL. I am still finding bones that I didn't realize was there, LOL. I am glad I am not the only one with the image problem. My friends and family don't understand. We had a family get together last month and all of us first cousins had our pics made together. I got a copy and if I had not have known I was in the pic, I would not have known me. I guess if we take more pic (since before we hid from cameras) we would wake up and smell the coffee, LOL. This week has been a wake up for me. I work night shift and usually sleep all day my 1st night off. Monday, I layed down and sleep 2 hours and got up. I had some errands to run so after a shower off I went. Then I picked the kids up and we came home and mowed the yard. Then yesterday I had a very full day and got a lot done that I had just been wishing were done. I will be a year out tomorrow and this is just starting to happen to me so everyone just hang in there.
That was a great question and Thanks for all your hard work Lea.
Tammy Paxton
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