Daily Post---3/4/08

How's THIS for different? How has your sex drive changed and how has that affected your relationship (s) ? For those further out, when can we expect our drive to come back?

Still in the beginning phase. Don't have a comment to offer. I'm still tired a lot. :o(

Well with my current husband there isn't much sex going on. There wasn't much sex going on before surgery and now I think there is even less (if that's possible). Ok this probably sounds really bad but I really want to have sex all the time but my husband just isn't into it. So I don't think the sex between us has changed all that much but the change has been with me...I just would like to do it all the time (but need a partner for that). Does this make any kind of sense or am I just rambling? Michelle

My hubby is in Kuwait I'll get back to ya on that one When he return in June

This question doesn't really apply to me.... prior to WLS, there was no relationship - for a long, long time... I'm in a new relationship - and I have the drive, but we're not quite there yet.

No change, it's still there! lol

Well, I can certainly tell you that my HUSBAND'S sex drive increased! Mine decreased, and after 3 1/2 yrs., it is still less than before. We definitely have sex a lot more frequently, but it's because of him. It's easier (logistically!), and I think because of the difference in how I look, he feels like we're young again! Amazingly, I'm almost more self-conscious about my body now than I was at almost 300 lbs. The saggy, wrinkly, ripply skin/boobs/etc., make me feel gross. In my head, I know it's a lot better than how I looked when I was so big, but it sure ain't pretty!

Well..my husbands sex drive has increased...he was never at a loss of drive..but now he "asks" for sex and even followed me to the basement where I was doing laundry to tell me he wanted me...Unfortunately, for him (and me) I have NO drive to speak of...didn't b4 surgery and still don't post-surgery...this is becoming a problem for us and I am going to have to do something about it...unfortunately, the fact that I am on high dose Paxil doesn't help...nor does the fact that having two kids with exploding social lives and no alone time help either. Before, I could have a glass of wine, relax and get in the mood...now, with the wine out of the question I would much rather just go to sleep...boy do I sound like a dream mate or what??? Good grief!

Well, I have the drive, but no one in my life right now. I am worried about the sagging skin and deflated chest - I wonder how a man will react that? But with my clothes on I feel pretty now and flirtatious. I never felt that way before. I guess I am a lot more secure and my self esteem is up.

Okay, it's crazy through the roof... it's like I'm 23 again... unfortunately my BF isn't where I am... there are issues... it is nice to have the old libido back and full force... don't know how long this will last... so might as well enjoy it... lol!!!