Daily Post--2/29/08

I get looks and flirted with now. Never did before. Plus guy friends will give me hugs now. But I've also had some issues, one was I had to file a sexual harassment claim against a coworker, and last friday night a guy was making lewd comments on my weight loss and body shape.

My husband says he doesn't like me so boney. I really haven't had any other comments from men. But that maybe because now many people are telling me that I am unapproachable...ok pretty *****y most of the time. I don't think that I just think men don't find me attractive and that's why they don't notice me or say anything to me. I will admit that I am pretty jealous of all of you that have men just making pass after pass at you...would be nice to have one person do that to me. Michelle

I get a lot more comments, generally good, from a lot of people; except the one that means the most and that's my husband's. He never says anything and that hurts. He's been having a lot of problems dealing with my weight loss and what others have to say about me. I try to make him understand that I love him, and only him, but it doesn't seem to matter. Makes me wonder how many others have problems with their spouses like this. Michele

No, I haven't noticed any compliments from the opposite sex. My husband is always complimenting me, but he did that before I had surgery. Jules

I have gotten more..."You're wasting away" to "You look so good" comments. I think I look healthy. i don't look saggy skin old, or sunken in, whatever. To me I am still heavy and have a long way to go. Katy

More compliments and it's weird b'c they make me feel uncomfortable. I am not used to this kind of attention. Weird I know, but I think it is somewhat normal.

Men look and comment more and I feel uncomfortable about that.. Females are nastier.. Ones I thought were or are my friends at work now make comments, and the guys who ask me out at work, are rude... for me its a mixed blessing.. I love being healthy but do not like the attention...

I have noticed that I do get more looks than I did before but my husband's opinion is the only one that matters to me!

I'm still a little early out for this but here's what I can tell you. The comments I received changed when I changed the way I looked at myself. I don't know how it happened, but I went from low self-esteem to watch out for me overnight. That's when I noticed guys flirting and I still do. I can only imagine that it will increase as I lose more weight.

I have noticed that men who work in stores/drive-thru's where I have always gone have become much friendlier to me now. I think it is pretty shallow, actually.