Daily Post--2/29/08
We had a similar topic once before back when we first started the daily posts. It wasn't exactly the same, but a bit similar... Since we talked about living with the excess skin yesterday, I thought perhaps this was a good follow up!
How has the views from the opposite sex changed since surgery (do you get noticed more, good comments/bad comments, or not difference)?
Lea
I am 58--had my wls when I was 54. Married for 36 yrs. So . . . this is really a non-issue for me. Not that I'm DEAD, but . . . ya know, I'm just not "looking to notice" their reactions! 
Of our/my friends & co-workers who are males, all were aware that I had wls, so they complimented me along the way, but they were friends to begin with.
I do feel SO much better, though, when I am around men (esp. if I don't know them very well or not at all), just knowing that I look "average"! I was never treated badly before wls, but I was always very self-conscious. And I HATED to be introduced to anyone else (particularly men) by my husband or by someone else when I was w/ my husband; I always felt like they were probably shocked that my (physically fit & attractive) husband was married to this huge woman! Now, it just feel so good to know that he is proud of how I look.
Jo
Of our/my friends & co-workers who are males, all were aware that I had wls, so they complimented me along the way, but they were friends to begin with.
I do feel SO much better, though, when I am around men (esp. if I don't know them very well or not at all), just knowing that I look "average"! I was never treated badly before wls, but I was always very self-conscious. And I HATED to be introduced to anyone else (particularly men) by my husband or by someone else when I was w/ my husband; I always felt like they were probably shocked that my (physically fit & attractive) husband was married to this huge woman! Now, it just feel so good to know that he is proud of how I look.
Jo 
Well, the only member of the opposite sex that matters to me is my husband of 29 years. I asked him what he thought about my new "look" just the other night. He said that he loved me before when I was heavy, and he still loves me now. My size didn't matter to him then, and it doesn't matter now either. Good enough for me! 
I am going to be away for the next week soaking up some sun in Mexico so I will respond to tomorrow's roll call today, if that's okay - 176.5.
Adios amigos!
I am going to be away for the next week soaking up some sun in Mexico so I will respond to tomorrow's roll call today, if that's okay - 176.5.
Adios amigos! 
My husband has always been supportive of me, even at my heaviest. That said, I think he's secretly thrilled that I have dropped much of my excess weight because I'm much more open to social opportunities, athletics, and life in general! I have much more energy and stamina for bike rides, waterskiiing, sand volleyball...etc.
Christy
Christy 
My husband has always been "attentive" to me...but since surgery he is being a bit more demonstrative and "physical"...it is kind of wierd to me...and I am not entirely enjoying this attention...that must sound a bit strange...but while my body has changed my mind has not...and my sex drive which was always on the low side (whether from the anti depressants I take or the excess weight or both) has not increased either..so I always feel like I am letting him down...So I have mixed emotions on this excess lovin'.
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