Daily Post--2/21/08

This hasn't been a problem for me. I have not been blessed with many buddies. Any social activity I have is with my kids or family so nothing has changed. The "friends" I used to have didn't stick around through the divorce. Once one goes from being a "couple" to a "single" the "couple" friends stop calling or inviting you places. Sally

I have maintained most of my friends from pre-op. There's just one that I've lost touch with, but I don't think it has much to do with the eating aspect of our relationship (thought that's what we always did together) I feel like I judge my friends/people I am surrounded with when they eat poorly. Sometimes I say something, but usually I just think about how they're eating. And I think about how I used to eat and can't believe I used to eat so horribly! The more I learn about health and losing weight, and how it all works the more I'm blown away by how much and some of the horrible things that I see others eat. I try to take pride in my healthy decisions, even if it's hard or I think I'd rather eat that than be healthy. In the end, the scale moving always makes my decisions worth it.

I have not given up any of my friends, but one appears to have given up on me. She never calls, and does not return my calls, so I have moved on. I still go out with my other friends, to eat, and even go to bars with them, I just choose to drink water or tea not alcohol. Gayle

Actually I have begun to notice that recently with someone close to me...they have begun not to share their weight struggles with me and they feel slighted and hurt that people notice my weight loss. I hope that it is something that we can work on because this person is really important to me.

It seems that I am like everyone else here on this point...I had no problems getting together with my friends after my surgery. It didn't matter that my eating habits changed....I just adjusted my meal plan and it always fit well with our plans. We got together to be together...it didn't matter what I was eating or how much. In fact, my eating less always seems to bring out the best in other people....they eat less or more healthy too! Jolene

I still do all the social activities that involve eating. I just make better choices about what I will eat and, of course, I eat only a fraction of the amount I used to. I didn't want to lose my ability to socialize just because I am being healthier.

No, not at all. I still go out to eat, I just make better, healthier choices...and my friends or boyfriend, whoever I am with, gets to finish the rest! LB

It hasn't changed for me at all thankfully. People are still a little amazed at how little I can eat now which is cute. I'll be with my best friend in a couple of months again and she's overweight, she weighs what I started out as, so it's going to be interesting to see how she is since she is continously kicking herself for her eating habits.