Daily Post--2/21/08

Once you began changing your habits (eating, exercise, etc.) did you find it difficult to maintain relationships with the people who were in your life before (for example, your old "eating buddies")? If so, how did you adjust? Lea

I still go out to lunch with all my old buddies that i used to lunch with, actually we do it more now, but theres just a mentality that... i cannot eat what i used to and i have to be healthy and I choose foods that are healthy for me. The only person that I've had a problem with is my best friend... who didnt support me having surgery, and 6 months later her and i talk maybe once every other month. Which breaks my heart but theres no way that I could do the things then that I do now and i feel great now and if she cant support me... than I have to let that go and make sure what I do now is for me not for others. Krissy

I was 54 at the time of my surgery, so most of my relationships were very long-term. I didn't have any issues along these lines! Obviously, I ate differently when w/ my friends, but they were so supportive, and I just didn't make a big deal out of what I was ordering & eating. I have had no situations like some people have, of people treating them differently, acting jealous, etc., but I think a lot of that comes from being as old as I was.

I began a long time ago changing things around so that food was not a focus in social gatherings. I don't eat out much now because it's kind of a pain to find a place that will have what I need. My pouch is still very new and picky.

Eating out has always been a big part of my life and social life.. so I just adjusted and order a smaller amount of food and since nothing bothers me, if I eat a peice of cheesecake, I count that as my meal...

Actually...no. Most of my friends are from work anyway...12 years in the same place will do that to a person...fortunately for me they have all been very supportive and actually a few of them have tried to make changes to their eating habits simultaneously to get healthier...none of us are getting any younger and we all want to keep the relationships we got!

Nothings changed for me... Cheers!

I haven't really lost any buddies, as I was a recluse before and really didn't have any close friends. But now, I have lots of friends and hang out several days a week with the girls. I have a life now...

Nothing has changed too much for me. I still get together with friends and go out to eat, I just make different choices and don't eat as much. I spend more time enjoying the company instead of the food. I have noticed that a couple of my friends and co-workers who I used to be heavier than don't really make comments about my weight loss or anything because I think they are kinda upset that now I'm smaller than they are. I know being heavy I always found comfort in being around people who were my size or bigger. It sucks to be the fattest one in the group! They don't make negative comments to me (at least not to my face) but they don't make comments about my weight loss like other people do, but I understand why and it doesn't bother me.

No changes yet for me. Every Friday night, my hubby and I (and most times our kids and their boyfriends) join us at a local Chinese restaurant. We still do that every week, but I just don't eat as much, and my husband gets to drink the whole scorpion bowl instead of just half of it. I'm the DD every week, but I don't mind.