Daily Post--1/25/08

My dh has been super supportive. He took a week off for my surgery, cooks all the meals (always did but makes sure it's something good), encourages me to go to the gym and sometimes goes with me, and for my b-day bought me weights and a new gym bag. He's also more frisky, if you know what i mean. Jen

So far my husband has been very supportive of my losing weight. However I do find him making little comments about his own weight and he'll say things "jokingly" about how I'm gonna get thin and find myself a new guy...blah blah blah. I think he is somewhat insecure. He was the one who encouraged me to start getting on the treadmill when I wasn't exercising and he knew I should be. Now I've joined a Zumba class and another dance class and I'm using the treadmill and playing Dance Dance Revolution on my kids Xbox 360. I told him I will support him as much as he needs if he wants to lose some weight. We're talking about going to the YMCA as a family at least 1-2 times a week to start.

my husband flip flops. he'll be encouraging for awile, but then he'll start bringing home icecream etc again. and to be honest, he needs to be losing weight.

I do not have a significate other or spouse. Sally

Well, my husband has done SO MUCH BETTER than I expected him too. Praise God for that!!!! I am VERY proud of him! He has always been insecure and jealous with NO reason to be! He, to be honest, is why I got fat and stayed fat...so men didn't look at me! I know, shame on me for letting that happen. I enabled him to become worse and worse!! My hatred of men (things in my childhood made that a fact) helped too! He married me thin and never cared about the weight gain. He has ALWAYS loved me for ME, even at my heaviest! He has pretty much been overweight our whole marriage. When I started this, I thought he would really struggle and was very scared about whether we would make it! But so far so good. He has handled all the changes really well. He loves the new clothes I wear, he doesn't seem to mind the comments I get, and he is thrilled with the new me. I still reassure him all the time that I'm doing this to be healthy and to be a better wife and mother and that I will ALWAYS want him and no one else, no matter how I look. I think he finally believes that!!! I still would like to see us do some counseling, but he has REALLY done well and I'm proud of him!! But even if that changes and he all of a sudden has a problem with it all, he will lose me because I did this for me and there is no turning back! I pray hard that he doesn't ever let that happen! Now if I could just get him to join me in losing some weight to he could be healthier. He was suppose to start when I had my surgery 8 months ago, but hasn't yet! lol I can now see that he had more of a food issue than I ever did and it was just one more thing that I let him control and enabled him!!! It makes me nauseous to watch him eat now, knowing that I use to do the same!!! lmao God has been good so far and for that I am thankful. We are coming up on our 25th wedding anniversary and going strong. Still in love after all these years and can't get enough of each other. He is my soulmate and I know we are blessed with what we have!!!