Daily Post--1/25/08
My hubby has tried to be supportive but honestly I think the thought of being thin is a little scary for him. He met me at 226 lb. and watched as I balloned up to 246lb. He has never seen me thin. He took really good care of me during and after the surgery but he does not say to much. At times I feel like we are growing apart. Not sure how to fix that but I suppose time will tell!
I have no spouse/significant other; but can I tell you how supportive my best friend has been? Her name is Chrysti, and she's my 23-year old daughter.
Since I am her only parent, we've always been very close. When I started this process a couple of years ago, she had her reservations, but she supported my decisions. She came to some of my meetings and appointments. She took care of me when I came home from the hospital, and encouraged me to get out and walk.
Once I started losing and I was approaching her size (she was in a 15, at her highest), she became determined to lose weight herself! She has lost about 60 pounds through diet and exercise, joining me in my low-carb, active lifestyle. She wears a size two or four now. Our favorite activity is our half-day trips to Disneyland or California Adventure, where we run from ride to ride, laughing and playing all day.
Chrysti and I share much more now than we ever have before, including our wardrobe. Now, if I could just get her to share her hundreds of shoes, it would be great!! 
My husband incourages me to be me. He has brought me from a quiet mouse to someone who speaks her mind more often. Now with me feeling more confident he is loving it. We joke more and laugh more because i actually have a funny side that I kept hidden. He has seen it but not as much as now. And of course the more he encourages me the more I come out of my shell...lol
My husband has been very supportive. He was so "there" with me through the surgery and recovery. The sympathy he felt for me getting used to learning to eat correctly was appreciated. I never said anything to him about dieting but after several months, he started on a program to lose weight through the VA and has lost 10 pounds so far. he is learning about nutrition and reading food labels. So that has helped me as well. It is easier to cook now and get out and exercise with someone. We both have banned cookies and junk from our house without having to worry how the other one feels about it. I can tell my husband is so proud of me for everything. I can see it in his eyes when he looks at me. Although he doesn't say it verbally much. That's okay. He says he loved me heavier as much as he loves me now....guess he loves "ME" for me.
Jolene
DH is very supportive--has been from the beginning, even when the insurance wouldn't pay, there was no question about writing the check (we are fortunate we can do that). He has never been a sabotager and has been very carefully (especially right after surgery) not to suggest restaurants where I couldn't pick something that would work.
DH's only problem is cleaning up the left-overs. It's hard to make a meal for 1 1/2 servings so the poor DH is snarfing up the extra portion or so and it's beginning to show around his middle!!!! 
So far he's been super. He was great when I got home from the hospital...taking care of me and making sure I had everything I needed before he left for work, etc... Since he makes comments about how great I must be feeling and he's taken to calling me "Slim" which is kinda funny, since I still weight 235 pounds! But he's sweet. He talks about how much happier I'll be on vacation this year...so I'd say he's pretty encouraging.
My husband is back and forth on this. He seems to be more proud of me now, but in the beginning it seemed as though he was a little jealous. So many people were asking questions about the surgery, he kind of felt like he was put on the back burner.
He joined our team for Lighten Up Iowa, so that should help him see this is all about US and not just me. My son joined our team too!
He told me the other day he was happy that he is seeing me do things I haven't done for years..like work out! And that I look good!
Katy
I am answering this a day late (I was out of town yest.). It almost makes me cry to think of how supportive my dh has been through all of this! He married me 36 yrs. ago when I weighed 128 and has watched me struggle up & down the scale all through the years. Although I lost over 100 lbs. TWICE during our marriage (NOT counting my wls), my weight has primarily just spiraled upwards. In the early years of our marriage, he did NOT take my weight gain well at all; however (shortening a long, long story), he has always loved me and in some ways felt worse for me than I did for myself.
When I started exploring wls back in 2002, he encouraged me; and every step of the way, he has BY FAR been my best, strongest, and most important supporter (followed closely behind by our 3 grown kids)! I know he loves me unconditionally regardless, but he is so thrilled for how wls has changed my life in so many ways. He LOVES how I act younger, how I can do so many activities that I "begged off" from before, how I can buy great clothes again, how people have raved about me, and all that! He's so proud of how I have consistently gotten my exercise in (I think this is especially shocking to him--like it is to me!), and recently he's been going to the gym also. He's always been very active and sports-minded, but at 59, he isn't as fit as he used to be and wants to lose about 15 lbs. or so.
I feel so sorry for those who are traveling this "journey" without the full support of their spouses/significant others/families. Having my dh wholeheartedly with me through every step has meant everything to me.
Jo
wihout reading all of the replies- i will answer that my hubby says he is supportive and i know taht he is proud-however- he does things to sabotage- and he has insecurities--most are unfounded....
sorry that i have been MIA-not feeling well and busy with him with his shoulder (rotator cuff) and worker's comp -have company this week now and today is our family Christmas.
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