Daily Post--1/23/08

The worst comment happened the day b4 my surgery. My brother-in-laws mother told my mother not to worry she would send me a FOOD carepackage to be delivered the day I got out of the hospital...that would cheer me up.... Luckily, my sister got to her first and tried to explain things a bit better and I got a lovely boquet of flowers...but the thought of coming home to a food basket I couldn't eat was just too much! LOL laura

The worst and stupidest comment I got, was after losing about a hundred ten pounds, my best friends mother came up and said,,"Ya know, I liked ya better fat. You were a lot healthier then!" I looked at her and said,,,"I was a LOT sicker! I had congestive heart failure, high blood pressure, I stayed swollen all the time, was very depressed , couldnt walk without stopping every few feet, couldnt put my own shoes and socks on, and now I dont have any of those problems. Do you think THAT was healthy! She said,,oh,,psh, you wasnt that bad!!" Go figure! Be Blessed Betsy

My worst comment yet wasn't negative, it was just indelicately worded. A co-worker saw me, bolted all the way across a crowded room and blurted out to me "Oh my GOD! Have you lost like a TON or what?!?" Well, at that point I had lost about 40 lbs -- not QUITE a ton! LOL. I guess it's the thought that counts, right? ;) Laurie

My father. I have lost 92 lbs and this is a miracle to me. I told him and he said he doesn't want to hear it until I've lost 100. Talk about deflating. I's taken me over a month to pick up and dust off but I am doing it. I'm down 3 more lbs this morning. Let's hope it sticks. I have a pattern of loosing 3 then going up 2 then in a few days back down. I am making progress and that's what counts. Carla

My best friend made a comment that to this day she doesn't know bugged me, and I don't see any point in telling her. She is trying to qualify for lapband and when she was in the decision process (RNY vs Lapband) told me she didn't think she would qualify for RNY anyway, because she's not as bad off as me. It made me feel like some kind of walking, talking mutant fat cell. At this point, I weigh less than her, so who's bad off now? Whatever.

The only negative comment I've recieved so far was from my husband. He told me that I acted like I had a big head because I was loosing weight and rubbing it in his face. He said this because I tell people how much weight I've lost or I tell him every week when I weigh in. It really upset me because for one thing how could someone who weighs 272 lbs. ever get a big head about that weight and be big headed over losing 40 lbs.! We talked about it and he told me he felt like my victories was making him feel like a failure because he is heavy too. I explained to him that the reason I tell people or tell him what weight I am at is because I am so excited knowing with each pound lost I am a pound farther away from the grave I was digging myself into. After he understood that and I assured him about everything he was better but it still hurt my feelings that he would ever think of me being that way. Kellie

I think the worst comment came from a customer at a Sports Bar that I work at a couple weekends a month. This guy hardly ever says anything to me and then just out of the blue a few weeks ago he says, Michele, if you get any skinnier, your head is going to fall through your butt hole (well, he said A). Can you believe that? How rude!!!! It actually kind've hurt my feelings. I mean I'm a size 10-12 now, so I'm just right, not too skinny. Arrrghhh. People. Michele

The stupidest comment I have heard was a dental patient at work asked me how I was losing the weight and when I told her I had surgery, she yelled..."Oh, you cheated!!!" Enough of that....I don't volunteer the information anymore unless I am sure the person won't fly off the handle at me! Jolene

I was telling a friend that I'm running out of clothes that fit me. Her solution: I should buy maternity pants (the adjustable kind, so that I can take them in as I lose)!!!! Clearly, she had no idea how offended I was. She's been skinny all of her life, so has no idea how humiliating it would be for me to go into a maternity store to buy clothing when I'M NOT PREGNANT!!!!!

I guess the stupidest comment would be from a lady at my TOPS group...said that I was losing weight the "easy way"..she's trying to lose weight the "normal way". Whatever, I'm seeing who's way is actually working...