Daily Post--1/20/08

I don't know that I am flirted with more, but I think I flirt more. I have also been told by co-workers that I present myself so very differently now. They tell me I have more confidence and just seem happier in general. I know that since I am able to shop I wear more professional clothes and that may help. Gayle

Yes. Simple answer. And I find myself flirting more. I am getting used to the extra attention.

There is a real difference in how I'm treated. I work in a construction related field and I see different people all the time. Now, folks seem to take me seriously and really don't "question" my opinions. Before, it was almost like they had to see something to believe me. It's strange. Men hold doors open for me or reach down and pick up something I've dropped at the grocery store. I'm not invisable anymore. I like my new life.

ABSOLUTELY!!! A day doesn't go by without something happening... wolf whistles... followed in cars... flirted with galore... hugs/kisses... and I deserve ALL of it!!! I'm enjoying my newly found freedom from what I once was... I've always been a flirt and adventurous in nature... I'm old enough to take full advantage of all of it and not shy away... This is great!!! Kim

I got flirted with more before surgery, by men old enough to be my grandfather, so I'm not missing that at all. So long as hubby sticks with me, I"m right as rain. Denise

I notice that people make more eye contact... it makes me feel weird, but I'll get over it.

Tough one for me, as I only JUST had surgery. BUT... What I've found about myself is that when I exude confidence (I am mostly comfortable in my plus sized skin, but want to be healthier) I can bring "all the boys to the yard". LOL I was told by one of my male friends that because of the way I present myself, that when I walk into a bar/room/restaurant I "own" it. Now, don't get me wrong. I wasn't this way for quite some time. I think I just woke up one morning and said enough bulls***. I'm a person damnit, and I want to be treated like one. So.... Anywho, I think that I might get more attention when I lose weight, although it might be from the more shallow people out there who couldn't look past the fat now. Sorry for the Rambles..... Kelly

Well, I'm . . . ahem . . . in my late 50's . . . and am not in many situations where flirting is an issue! But I know what you're asking, and yes, I will admit that when I am normal weight, I am treated a little differently--by both men & women. Through the years, when I was younger & lost significant amounts of weight, I do think it was a combination of me acting differently or having better self esteem and people seeing me as being more "worthwhile" or appealing because of my appearance. But this time, since wls at age 54, I honestly do not think I have behaved differently. I know "who I am," I never feltl I was treated poorly at work, I had/have lots of friends & a full social life, and my unhappiness came NOT from my relationship with others, but from within myself. The only people that treat me differently this time are people I don't know--like sales people, possibly new people I meet, etc.--these people are much more attentive and interested in me than they were when I was MO. The "real" people in my life do not treat me differently now. Great question.

I don't know about flirt... but they seem more polite. They hold the door when going into a store or smile or say Good Morning (or afternoon or whatever) so... yeah I find them to be more polite. Doris

For me its amazing.. When I was heavier no matter what I wore, sales people looked at me and did not want to help, thinking i did not have much money or not what they wanted to help. Men talked to me, but did not flirt.. Women who were heavy became my friends.. When I was thin before women stayed away from me.. Its odd now , so many people treat you different. My B/f has always knon me heavy so he has not changed, he loves the way i look in jeans now.. lol.. I get more respect in stores now and more sales people help me..